How frequently should I reach out? (Early Dating Stage)

[jackhamma]

Hey guys been a while. I really need a refresher on this because I have been so focused on school and now that I am done, I am able to start going on more dates.

With this new chick here are the facts:

-New girl is 22
-I am 28
-We have a lot in common, literally almost everything lol
-She is really down to earth, definitely want to keep her around.
-We already smashed because the sexual attraction and tension was insane between us.

My question:

How often/frequently is considered "Okay" but not desperate to reach out with something funny, or call to say hello, or set up a date etc. The girls from 21-24 love to text. It works well for me, and usually I build up great rapport. It's been a minute and I am finding myself reaching out to often. I already have another date set up for this Friday.

Thoughts on how often is to much? What is the rule of thumb? Please do not say go ghost until Friday because girls this age it will not work lol. Thank you!

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

When you 2 are in supposedly this in sync with each other, you reach out to her whenever you want to. There are no rules, just general guidelines.

Just be sure to not go out of your way for her (e.g. don't cancel already made plans just for her, don't do anything really crazy for her, etc.)

 

[Infern0]

She ought to be doing MOST of it. you should be initiating 1-2 times out of 10

Stay from that at your peril

 

[Maximus Rex]

If you're playing the game according to what you perceive her likes and dislikes will be, then you've already lost. Besides, from the b.s. that you've already stated, one can surmise that you want only want validation for a predetermined plan of action.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

Depends on how strong the connection is..

I've seen some serious dorks with decent looking girlfriends.. Do you think they worry how much they should contact their GIRLFRIEND? lol. The age gap you have isnt that hefty.

If you feel like you're smothering her, than thats prob not a good thing. Just know that.. the best time to interact is IN PERSON.. So knowing that, don't expect more than 10- 15 mins in back and forth texting at a time.. and dont text just to say whats up or open ended stuff.. text as a gesture.. tease her, make her smile with your texts.. and go on with your day. Call her when it feels right..

You be the leader of the relationship.. You dictate the rules. Be a man, be in control and don't undervalue yourself..