"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How forget her?

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Is there any other method except "spin more plates"?

Because I DO NOT WANT girlfriends right now, and especially not sex.



I just want to FORGET HER!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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From my experience, and let me tell ya I know how you feel, the situation is kind of like a catch 22 in that you feel screwed either way. Right now you're saying I don't want anyone, probably cause you're hurt and don't feel emotionally ready to put yourself back out there like that. But I have found the only way to forget someone is to feel for someone else what you felt for them. If you sit around everyday you will think about them and begin to relive those memories, if you go out with someone new you may begin to form new memories and new feelings for them that can begin to push the old feelings out. Trust me when I say, the only way to move on is with someone else. As long as there's not another person then you won't get over the past anytime soon. This doesn't mean you have to jump into a serious relationship, but just have someone that you can go out and do things with if that's all you feel comfortable with.
 

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Best way to forget a girl.


Cut anything in your life out that reminds you of her. Pictures of her. Songs that remind you of her. Everything.

It works a charm. Doesnt take long either. You will remember her...but you wont think about her.
 

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Another good way to overcome an ex (from my personal experience),

Focus on your personal development. One fine example is building your body up , in short bodybuilding and fitness. set yourself goals, develop a weekly/daily meal plan, workout exercises and game plan. Train, eat, sleep/rest religiously. The mirror & scale are your friends here, gauge your progress weekly. You'll feel a sense of accomplishment, well being, more self confidence.....not bad at all, is it !

In no time she will be the LAST thing on your mind. But best of all, if you stay focused & disciplined, you will not only put on lean body mass (read: muscle) but attract better quality girls.

how's that?! *sometimes* breaking up with a girl is a blessing in disguise & one of the best things that could happen to you- it betters you as a person on the whole :)
 

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- I agree with Mr. Tomatoes with cutting off everything that reminds you of her. It doesnt mean that you you'll completely forget her, it just helps you to stop thinking of her. Dwelling on something lost and out of your control will only kill you mentally which isnt good for your health whatsoever.

- Stop listening to LOVE music in general. This is the kinda crap that totally turns guys AFC to the max.

- And plus like rob686, get a HOBBY. Preferably something physical. What I personally do nowadays is go bowling, surfing, skating(bombing), anything physical. It really does help.

- And last, HANG OUT WITH THE BOYS! Kicking it with guys will be full of laughs and it'll help you get out of the AFC mentality.

- "NEXT! Just move on!"...easier said than done right? As of now, you should be looking at your options even if you're not interested in them or arent the best looking ones. I know, its rebounding and all but hell, we all do it. You'll think less of your ex, and you'll start thinking of the other girl(s) more. But DON'T transfer old feelings that you had for your ex to these new chicks! Remember, they're here just to recover your ego, not to be your future GF's.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dwelling on something lost and out of your control will only kill you mentally which isnt good for your health whatsoever.
Actually she lost me.

I've been in a relationship with a girl who's been sleeping with other guys, and never admitted that, but I'm totally sure she did it (althought I dont have any evidence). I just do not trust any word that's coming out of her mouth.

I just need to forget that I'VE BEEN A STUPID AFC FOR BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SLVT.
 

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hck332 said:
Actually she lost me.

I've been in a relationship with a girl who's been sleeping with other guys, and never admitted that, but I'm totally sure she did it (althought I dont have any evidence). I just do not trust any word that's coming out of her mouth.

I just need to forget that I'VE BEEN A STUPID AFC FOR BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SLVT.

Ahh, so you were the dumper. That makes things much clearer.
 

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seeing her again after a while or talking to her will bring back all your feelings.

Trust me youll be in love with her again. I know b/c im back :(
 

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I hate that girl.

We always had "problems", but I was so AFC that I prolonged that relationship just to get more sex from her, and I also thought I loved her.

NOW I realise the truth that she was a major hoe (just like all other women who **** before marriage), and keep recalling those moments when she could be cheating on me.

Although she would never confess, I just KNOW that she was ****ing a bunch of other guys, because I was a big *****.

How do I get over thet feeling of being a stupid manipuilated afc?
 

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Best way to forget someone is to get another chicks #,works for me. I always forget about some chick as soon as I pull anothers,its a vicuos cycle,chicks have to stay on top of their game to keep me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is going to sound like the stupidest trick ever, BUT...

Five years ago I fell HARD for this girl, and it didn't happen. Actually drove me briefly into antidepressants.

Then I heard about this: take a rubber band, not too big, and put it around your wrist. Whenever you think about her, snap it, HARD.

Sound silly? Maybe. But after a few days I was like GOD DAMMIT THIS HURTS! GOTTA STOP!
 

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realsmoothie said:
This is going to sound like the stupidest trick ever, BUT...

Five years ago I fell HARD for this girl, and it didn't happen. Actually drove me briefly into antidepressants.

Then I heard about this: take a rubber band, not too big, and put it around your wrist. Whenever you think about her, snap it, HARD.

Sound silly? Maybe. But after a few days I was like GOD DAMMIT THIS HURTS! GOTTA STOP!
I would not recommend pain as an alternative to helping you forget about someone. Just get another HB's #,youll quickly forget about her.
 

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Cut ALL contact COMPLETELY and keep busy!

And fantasize about being with other girls regularly! Not only in a sexual way but emotionally and imagine how good it would be to be in a relationship with em and so on.
 

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hck332 said:
I hate that girl.

We always had "problems", but I was so AFC that I prolonged that relationship just to get more sex from her, and I also thought I loved her.

NOW I realise the truth that she was a major hoe (just like all other women who **** before marriage), and keep recalling those moments when she could be cheating on me.

Although she would never confess, I just KNOW that she was ****ing a bunch of other guys, because I was a big *****.

How do I get over thet feeling of being a stupid manipuilated afc?

Your a hater.......A hater of yourself! Sort it out....

If you hate yourself your confiedence and self esteem will shoot down.

It will turn you into more of an AFC than you have EVER been. Is that what you want?

I think not.

You are the man. You were using her for sex. Good on you. You relised after that she is NOT even worth sex from you! You used her for abit and now your done.

Now get out there and sort yourself out. Prove it!
 
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