"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How exactly do i dump this girl?

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I met this 20 year old chick 4 days ago and we've already hooked up. Now I'm not a player by any standard so you could consider this my first actual pickup/one night stand (actually 3 nites so far). I thought I made my intentions clear early on with all the flirting and talking of sex and all. I don't recall ever asking her anything important about her character, family, or aspirations. I just wanted to get some action, dammit!!

So now she's calling me and texting me non stop and I don't really feel like seeing her anymore. I haven't invested anything into this so this should be relatively easy. It's just that i have no experience with this that I don't know how to dump her without looking like a total dog. Can someone give me an idea of how i should go about this?
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Since you only met her for 4 days. You don't dump her. You just NEXT her. Don't call her, don't response to text, don't make contact with her. She'll get the idea.
 
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gengx2 said:
I met this 20 year old chick 4 days ago and we've already hooked up. Now I'm not a player by any standard so you could consider this my first actual pickup/one night stand (actually 3 nites so far). I thought I made my intentions clear early on with all the flirting and talking of sex and all. I don't recall ever asking her anything important about her character, family, or aspirations. I just wanted to get some action, dammit!!

So now she's calling me and texting me non stop and I don't really feel like seeing her anymore. I haven't invested anything into this so this should be relatively easy. It's just that i have no experience with this that I don't know how to dump her without looking like a total dog. Can someone give me an idea of how i should go about this?
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Tell her you love her. Write her a poem, and send her a bunch of chocolate.
 
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I'm a KJ for purposes of this post, but if you want to read, you can read:

You really have to be more careful when you are flirting to check if the girls you are picking up are all together upstairs first. You should have picked up a RED-FLAG about her when you initially flirted with her.

Part of being a good DJ is avoiding potentially problem babes by picking up RED-FLAGS so things like this do not happen again.

What you need to do is mentally review the flirting interactions with her in your mind, and determine what RED-FLAG you missed about her, which would of predicted her behaviour, and listen to the above posters about dealing with this girl.

Based on the HTSWW book, in this case, as you just had a one-night stand, the textbook method of breaking up is as follows: Do not call her again.

If you had sex multiple times with her and she's a psycho - then get away from women quickly. Tell her that you are not ready for a relationship, or that you realise you cant give her what she wants from a man. Be careful and be gentle as possible. The follow the NC rule.
 
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Ok this sucks b/c i know you are probably a nice guy and you dont want to just ignore her b/c you know she'll be resenting guys forever b/c she probalby thinks all guys are the same and u proved her point, so just ease out of this as easy as posible......................................since you are probably never going to see her again in public you can just call her and be honest: "im not looking for a relationship right now but you seem like a good person so maybe we can be at least friends?" She has to get the picture then and maybe she'll slow down with the clingyness
If this gurl shows signs of Pyscho Female and still text/calls u none stop, then dont feel bad by not replying.......so good luck dude.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Part of being a DJ is to "leave her better than when you found her"
 
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gengx2 said:
I met this 20 year old chick 4 days ago and we've already hooked up. Now I'm not a player by any standard so you could consider this my first actual pickup/one night stand (actually 3 nites so far). I thought I made my intentions clear early on with all the flirting and talking of sex and all. I don't recall ever asking her anything important about her character, family, or aspirations. I just wanted to get some action, dammit!!

So now she's calling me and texting me non stop and I don't really feel like seeing her anymore. I haven't invested anything into this so this should be relatively easy. It's just that i have no experience with this that I don't know how to dump her without looking like a total dog. Can someone give me an idea of how i should go about this?
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Ok how would you feel if the girl did the exact oppiste thing to YOU?Thing about her feelings and situation,how would you feel if some girl all of suddenly dumbed YOU.

Think before you react!
 
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Ok how would you feel if the girl did the exact oppiste thing to YOU?Thing about her feelings and situation,how would you feel if some girl all of suddenly dumbed YOU.

Think before you react!
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I really don't care, I just want to warn you not to take advice from this guy. He's an AFC.

Proof: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105083
 
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Thanks for the replies! So far pretty helpful. Yea, generally I'm a nice guy (nice as in decent, not total AFC). I've always used to be an AFC but now I really don't want to be. As this is my first time doing stuff like this and looking forward to have a many more one night stands, I'm finding I really don't care too much for her feelings. I just want to know what is the best way to NEXT this chick without all the potential drama and move on to the next one.
 
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Totally agree, just ignore calls and texts, works everytime. If you run into her and she wants to discuss 'what happened' tell her you're "just not into the whole relationship thing" at the moment. Feel free to use one of the many bullsh*t excuses available that she'll know are bullsh*t, but makes her feel a bit better anyway's. If you're sharp enough you may be able to turn her into a FB
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hadow Khan said:
Tell her you love her. Write her a poem, and send her a bunch of chocolate.
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Haha! I like that! Point is though, I don't want her around for and extra week though. Just wanna get rid of her.
 
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