"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How Effective Are Push Ups in Maintaining Muscle Build and Preventing Muscle Loss?

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I have a question. As I mentioned a while ago to those of you who had a chance to read one of my previous posts, I'm going to be away from the U.S. for at least a year, to take care of a few things in my home country in Central Africa. Body building isn't big at all where I come from, and the gyms in most of the cities don't have close to half the equipment that is available in the U.S. In that sense, I am worried that being away from the gym for that long will cause me to lose a lot of muscle toning.


Someone suggested to me a few weeks ago that I should develop the habit of doing push ups frequently when I get there. He said that push ups won't enable me to build more muscle, but that they would help me maintain whatever muscle that I have already built. The thought of probably having to start all over again frightens me because I've worked extremely hard for two and a half years to get to this point. Might anyone have any suggestions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You can still be strong without doing weights specifically.

Go to www.rosstraining.com and get Never gymless by Ross Enamait. That would be a great start for what you are after.

Sandbag work (really cheap to get), kettlebells, sled work(very chea homemade), tyres, sledgehammers, bodyweight and weighted body moves, rope work...the list is endless.

Read some of the articles on the above site too, there are topics on how to make useful equipment with limited funds.

Good luck.

Ps-Ross Enamait weighs 175ish and can deadlift over 500lbs, he doesn't train the deadlift...
 

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Re:

Thanks, Quagmire. I wish I didn't have to go at this point in time but many times, life is unpredictable. I'll most likely end up losing quite some muscle toning from being away for that long. Nonetheless, I'll check out the link you posted when I get a chance.
 

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OK so the gyms in your home country might not be as good as ones your used to now, but all you really have to do is keep doing squats, rows, bench press etc. Surely you'll be able to do those in gyms in your home country?
 

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Frank2500 said:
Thanks, Quagmire. I wish I didn't have to go at this point in time but many times, life is unpredictable. I'll most likely end up losing quite some muscle toning from being away for that long. Nonetheless, I'll check out the link you posted when I get a chance.
That shouldn't be necassary. You should be able to maintain/improve with the stuff I outlined above. Be creative.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Frank2500 said:
Someone suggested to me a few weeks ago that I should develop the habit of doing push ups frequently when I get there. He said that push ups won't enable me to build more muscle, but that they would help me maintain whatever muscle that I have already built. The thought of probably having to start all over again frightens me because I've worked extremely hard for two and a half years to get to this point. Might anyone have any suggestions?
Hogwash! Your muscles aren't THAT smart...

Heavy load is a heavy load... What I would do is learn as many bodyweight exercises I can before going back to Africa.

And bodyweight exercises make you STRONGER and you will find that you can actually lift MORE weights when you get back.
 

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Re:

Thanks to you all for your responses. I was away from the computer for a while, so I wasn't able to read your responses until now. Getting a machine shipped out to me over there will be very equipment. I'll have to hustle and see what I can come up with following your suggestions. The thought of having to start from scratch if I return to the U.S. is what bothers me the most.
 

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"Never Gymless", the book.

Go to Iron Woody's site (no joke), and get some resistance bands, you can do all kinds of **** with that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I love pushups. It's the only chest exercise I do. I do them a variety of ways. They have kept my chest looking very developed. Not as much as when I was bench pressing heavily, but I don't lift heavy weights anymore, mainly due to injuries.

I am very satisfied with the development pushups have given me, but I also don't want the bodybuilder look. Pushups have been the prize chest developer since the beginning of time.
 

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All you really need is a barbell with 180lbs in plates . After that all you'll need is your maintenance in calories.
 

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why would pushups not do anything for ones muscles? what if a person is benching less than his body weight? wouldnt pushups still build muscle till he got to the point that his body weight was not enough resistance?
 
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