How Effectionate Are You To Chicks?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

MoreThanSmooth

Master Don Juan

Jun 25, 2018

Very affectionate here, but it takes me a long time to open up to that. I'm very guarded because once you start giving affection, it's easy for someone to screw you over or cut you deep if they're not trustworthy.

So if I've just been on a date or two and don't really know her, I'll be quite cool with her.

But if I'm dating someone for 2 months onwards and she seems trustworthy and easy going, I'll start to show her my more passionate and affectionate side.

The only downside to being aloof at first is that many girls just assume you're heartless or boring and don't want the second date in the first place...but that's their loss.

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.