You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly this. This is quite a bad place to ask for an opinion of how you look, because most of the people on this forum don't have the right look anyway, and probably think anything other than a baggy t-shirt and jeans is gay. Pink is a good colour for a shirt, cannot recommend it for a t shirt though.WC2 said:You're asking a lot of insecure people how you look, while you seem to be one of the only ones who are actually secure with yourself.
I say f*ck what everyone else has been saying; you look good.
I've worn pink many a time... comments from the peanut gallery never stopped me.
???CaptainJ said:people on this forum don't have the right look anyway
The fact that you honestly think that there's a "right look" to getting girls shows me how pathetic you really are. When's the last time you've touched a girl (excluding your mother)?CaptainJ said:right look
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'm a stylish guy, to be quite honest, but i really just don't like the look.Daniel1099 said:haha well i was hoping the guys that actually have experience would give me insight...
i can tell when someone has no game whatsoever.
if anything i could be giving advice on how to dress to some people
but like i said. i like having the more experienced guys give me insight to cuz theirs always room for improvement.
and G-star.... their is a RIGHT look. and that look is to NOT look like a creep/weirdo. if your thing is surfer, rocker, skater...whatever...
you just need to be able to pull it off, and look good.
I think that's what he's going for. :cheer:saturos said:Another factor to consider is that your hairstyle is generally associated with faggots when in combination with the rest of your clothes.
Gstar said:I think that's what he's going for. :cheer:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow, struck a nerve did I? Just goes to show someone is insecure...Gstar said:???
The fact that you honestly think that there's a "right look" to getting girls shows me how pathetic you really are. When's the last time you've touched a girl (excluding your mother)?
I'd spit in your face, but you're probably into that kind of thing.
Silly faggot, d.i.c.k.s are for chicks!Daniel1099 said:im metro.
i care how i look.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You are not quite dressing to a point where i would give you the title metro. The way you dress, at least in the pictures given, is not a metro look.Daniel1099 said:i have already settled with the fact that im metro.
i care how i look. i care how i present my self....that right their is metrosexual...
guys like brad pitt, devid beckham, and justin timberlake are metro sexual.
but i look up to them when it comes to style and pullin women.
so its all good.
Not really.Daniel1099 said:sure those guys are stylish...
but girls wont go for someone THAT into how they look... thats just borderline gay...
you still need other guys to be able to say. DAMN that dude is ALPHA...
then everyone in the room gives you instant respect by how you walk in, smell, look. etc.
these guys are well dressed.
http://sharonwaxman.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/09/27/paul_newman.jpg
http://z.about.com/d/mensfashion/1/5/V/R/75881703.jpg
http://www.kitmeout.com/img_assets/george-clooney.jpg
http://www.matusiak.eu/numerodix/blog/wp-content/uploads/brad_pitt_suit.jpg
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.