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Don Juan
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All right I was at this get-together last night, there was about 4 of us. We were all sitting around talking and what not (I wasn't I was just pretty much just sitting, observing and listening), well I noticed that 2 of the guys that were there were not really hard-core party people (but yet they were party people, just not hard-core party people, if you know what I mean), and the other 1 guy that was there was a hard-core party person. Anyways we were sitting there talking and I noticed that whenever the hard-core party person was talking everyone was attentive and would laugh and respond to what the person was saying, he was mostly saying clever humerous stuff (the person seemed enthusiastic, (his girlfriend was there, but she didn't say much, occasionally she say random cutesy ditzy girl stuff but that'd be all) he also seemed really self confident and laid back and had a destinct voice whenever he spoke). Now I noticed some things about the non-hardcore party people (I'll refer to them as NH A and NH B). NH A seemed to elaborate and converse with the hard-core party person whenever he mentioned stuff; but when NH B would come in everyone listened about the first few word he had to say but he was easily drowned when NH A and the hard-core party person started to talk again (sometimes they'd even cut NH B off and would continue the conversation). NH A seemed laid back, intellectual, to have a destinct voice, had some dry humor, and fairly self confident. NH B seemed enthusiastic, seemed self confident, had a more softer voice, and seemed slightly easy to please others.
Now my question is how come everyone paid attention to whatever the hard-core party person had to say? I've been to other parties and seen this dude there and it seems that people seem to just be attracted to the guy (like a magnet), he seems to be the life of the joint, he also seems to get the girls and doesn't even try, the guy doesn't even ask that many questions he just seems to say clever humerous stuff (which is really weird because I thought that in order to be a good conversationalist was that you had to ask questions and let the other person ramble on about themself). Hmm, so how do you create this "magnetism" so to say? And also how do you improve your humor (in which you yourself can say really clever but extremely funny stuff)?
Now my question is how come everyone paid attention to whatever the hard-core party person had to say? I've been to other parties and seen this dude there and it seems that people seem to just be attracted to the guy (like a magnet), he seems to be the life of the joint, he also seems to get the girls and doesn't even try, the guy doesn't even ask that many questions he just seems to say clever humerous stuff (which is really weird because I thought that in order to be a good conversationalist was that you had to ask questions and let the other person ramble on about themself). Hmm, so how do you create this "magnetism" so to say? And also how do you improve your humor (in which you yourself can say really clever but extremely funny stuff)?