"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have come to like full body workouts a lot better than splits (even upper/lower) because it feels as if I'm doing more. I've been quite successful with Starr's 5x5, but I'm not an athlete anymore and squatting three times a week just causes me to lose motivation to keep up with the workout (lifting becomes a burden as opposed to something enjoyable). So I tried to come up with a comparable full body workout.

A:
Squats 5x5
Incline 5x5
Rows 5x5
Decline Close Grip Bench 4x8
Curls 4x8

B:
Deadlift 5x5
Bench 5x5
Pullups 4x10
Military 5x5 (or 4x8...can't decide)
Weighted Sit-ups 4x15

How does that look? I would do it 3 times a week...ABA, then BAB next week.

Also, do you guys think that 5x5 ramping is a good approach to a workout like this? Or should I switch it up? I guess that the main advantage is that the last set is way heavier than straight sets, but the first three sets feel like nothing sometimes.

Any advice will be appreciated. Or if you think I'd be better off with a proven full body workout, let me know and why (as I said though, I don't think I want to go back to Starr's).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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not sure what your goal is but thats a lot of sets. Staring strength would be better imo
 
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A lot of sets? Far from it. It's 5x5 ramping...so let's say for bench it would be 155x5, 185x5, 205x5, 225x5, 245x5

And I'm way beyond starting strength.

I'm 5'9, 160, my bench is 270, squat is 365.
 

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So just don't do squats 3 times a week if that's your only gripe. Do it twice and leave it at that.
 
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mrRuckus said:
So just don't do squats 3 times a week if that's your only gripe. Do it twice and leave it at that.
Yeah I guess that's sort of what I did when designing this workout. And then moved a couple of lifts around, although the principles are the same. Besides deadlifting more will probably be useful since my deadlift is actually less than my squat.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bulletproof Heart said:
A lot of sets? Far from it. It's 5x5 ramping...so let's say for bench it would be 155x5, 185x5, 205x5, 225x5, 245x5

And I'm way beyond starting strength.

I'm 5'9, 160, my bench is 270, squat is 365.

Even with ramping thats 3 big lifts a workout (ramping still should be really tough) plus the other accessory work, 3 times a week. maybe you have good recovery or something, just don't see how you could make steady gains with that layout. What was your goal?
 

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High volume, I don't think you'd gain a whole lot of strength from it.
 

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we seem to have similar goals.

here's my current workout.

Day 1:
Squat 6x4 or OH Squat
Clean & Jerk 1x8
Hanging Leg-Hip Raise 8x3
Push Press 6x3

Day 2:
Bench variations 6x4
Deadlift 5x3
Weighted Pullups or Wide Grip Pullups 6x4
Snatch 1x8

btw. good numbers
 

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Bulletproof Heart said:
Yeah I guess that's sort of what I did when designing this workout. And then moved a couple of lifts around, although the principles are the same. Besides deadlifting more will probably be useful since my deadlift is actually less than my squat.
I meant don't change stuff if it's still working. Just drop the extra day of squats. Or reduce volume on them that day or something. Just do what you can physically/mentally can handle.

Deadlifting more than once a week is generally inadvisable.
 

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mrRuckus said:
I meant don't change stuff if it's still working. Just drop the extra day of squats. Or reduce volume on them that day or something. Just do what you can physically/mentally can handle.

Deadlifting more than once a week is generally inadvisable.
Yea it takes me a week for my bruised & cut up shins to heal up in time for next week's deadlift-centered workout :eek:

I remember on my 1st ever workout plan, my coach had us doing squats on one day and leg-presses on a seperate day. He threw in several olympic lifts since it was for shot put/discus and told us we couldn't lift the same amounts for more than 2 weeks. My goals and lift plans have changed a lot since then, but it got my legs to grow.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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