How do you weed out the phonies that lurk the online dating sites?

[sapphire]

I am relatively new to the online dating scene and perhaps a little naive. I have read the multitude of threads regarding the how to's when trying to hook up with someone in cyberspace. I want to do a little experimenting myself and supplement my real world sarging.

My question to the experienced is how do you instantly know or what are the red flags that alert you to the fake women that are out there to waste your time and money?

I have been contacted/solicited by some stunning looking women and it almost seems too good to be true as I ask myself, why would a beautiful girl be looking to meet a guy online when she could easily meet any guy off the street. Are there quality women who legitimately prefer meeting guys online or are there ulterior motives involved especially with respect to very attractive women?

 

[ApocalypseCow2]

A couple years ago, I was in the Yahoo Personals. This site was really bad for fakes...you'd get some hottie sending a generic reply to your account, and then realize it was all a scam to get your money. Not sure if they fixed the problem. You can usually tell the fakes because they look SOO hot, don't reply to questions, and send very generic emails.

I was on Match and never has this problem.

With online dating, you need to volley a couple emails back and forth and then go in for the number (*COUPLE* emails, not dozens).

Call her, and then try to set up a neutral place to meet (like a coffee shop or a food court in the mall). Make it something where you can bail relatively fast. Sometimes, you can tell within 5 seconds of meeting a girl that you don't like her. In this case, you should still talk to her for about 15 or 20 minutes. It's good practice.

Most girls DON'T look as good as their pictures. A couple girls I met were incredibly obnoxious (and they weren't even that hot). Of the approx 15 girls I went out with online, only 2 were really repulsive (they didn't look *too* bad, but their personalities were horrible).

 

[sapphire]

I was on yahoo for a while until I realized as you eluded to the blatantly fake ads I was receiving on a constant basis, particularly from supposed russian women seeking to meet "the love of their life".

I am on match now and it seems that the women there are more legit, although I suppose you will find scam artists everywhere.

 

[DinoCassanova]

I've got a lot of experience with the online personals (unfortunately) and it's gotten to where I can tell right off the bat, just by looking at the posted pic, whether it's a legit ad or not. Match has the fewest of these, by far, because they screen most carefully. But there are still some. Yahoo is worse, and the worst, I mean we're talking probably half of the females' ads on these are fake, are the ones like mate1, ANY type of "adult" or "sex" personals . The general idea behind the scam ( I know because I've fallen for it several times before I learned) is that the "hot chick" sends you some kind of free "indicator of interest" like a "wink" or an "icebreaker". The guys who do this know, being guys themselves, that 98% of the men on these things, if shown ANY type of IOI by a hot broad, will automatically respond to "her" with an email or IM and oftentimes include their email address(es). Then it's spam city. Come see on my dorm room webcam, you know, etc etc, BS. To do an experiment of sorts, me and a buddy of mine once took out our own ad, using a pic of a hot chick from some obscure European magazine I had laying around. I kid you not, the next day after the ad posted up, we had like 35 emails and 10, 15 winks. The day after that the number had nearly doubled. Several of the respondents included not only their email addresses ( they almost invariably gave those), but also their HOME or cell phone numbers as well!! Furthermore, it served as a lesson on how it must be to be a good looking legit female who puts an ad up online. These girls get so much email some of them would need a secretary to sort it for them if they honestly wanted to read it all ! So that's why , on those things, you can't take it personally if she never gets back to you. Who knows if she ever even got to yours! ~Dino~

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Originally posted by sapphire
I was on yahoo for a while until I realized as you eluded to the blatantly fake ads I was receiving on a constant basis, particularly from supposed russian women seeking to meet "the love of their life".

hahaha lmfao :crackup: