"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you think up what to say quickly?

Magnatolia

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Hi All,

I've been reading through a few of teh FR's and cold approaches. One thing I notice is you all seem to come up with answers (or if you can't, you improvise) at the snap of your fingers. You never seem to have trouble coming up with something good to say back.

How do you do this? Is it all just natural or can it only come from lots of practice?

Thanks
J
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You dont hink you just react. If you have a good wit then often combacks are quick and easy. Although you can practice a quick wit, try having a normal convo. do have to think before every sentance or does it just flow? It should flow with little thought and thats the way they come up with the snappy combacks.
 

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If You cant think You wont think. If You cant write poems You wont learn to writ em. But You can to reply or react like a comouter -0 by studying many examples. Sucks tho, but nothign else You can do.
 

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Hmmm. Watch comedy to get a sence of humor then just try and make snappy comback whenever your in a convo. But dont do it too much or people think your an ass. Its hard to explain
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you gotta be quick on the uptake. learn to think faster. watch comedy like brian suggests, mainly stand-up. it'll help you out, and hell, its funny stuff.

become more knowledgable. the more stuff you know about, the better chance you'll have something to say or comment about.

besides all that, a few snappy lines can be found around this site, if you look for em. basically all those comebacks you read are part of being ****y/Funny. they just come out when u get good at it.

so watch some comedy, read up, and learn c&f. try it out and tell us how it goes.
 

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Learning to talk with C@F takes practice. I have spent a few months practicing on women and men around my surroundings. You will get better with the wit and faster with the comeback. Watch some of Cary Grant's films and listen to his bantering. You don't need to copy his style. You can have your own that fits your personality.

Some things you sould keep in check when bantering.

1. You are the prize. Make it that she is persueing you.
2. You are the alpha-male. Dont take anyone's crap. You take the lead. You dont care.
3. Exploit her comfort zone, use neg-hits. Be fresh. Be unpredictable. Be different from other men.
4. The secret on how to make this all work is to say what is on your mind at the moment, but with a twist of wit.
 

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PRACTICE. <---THIS IS KEY TO SOLVING A SHIET LOAD OF THINGS PPL JUST R TOO LAZY TO DO IT

treat it like a game: everytime you get her to get this look on her face :eek: then you win a brownie. after you gain 10 lbs from all those fukin brownies, you are ready and an expert at being a smartass
 

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LISTEN TO pierce BROSNAN quips or repartees it s money

write down your own scripts at home and practise at home with ****YA funny imagine all sorts of situations and turns in your dialogues with the waitress receptionist whathaveyou

only go sarging when you have vvery HIGH ENERGY

hit on 5 women a day that s your mission otherwise you are effing no good SELF DIZIPLIN MEIN HERR!!!!

then in MARCH yor talsk ll be to get 2 telphone numbers a week
 

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invest in a little forward thinking:
before you go out, sit down and have a think about how she might react to what you say, then brainstorm some lines to overcome what she says.

but practice is the key, try and put yourself in sitautions where you are constantly having to think on your feet. its not a normal skill, but practice at anything will make you better
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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one more tip:

If you are at a loss of a comeback, then don't fret it. Just think of a comeback sometime later in your spare time (l'esprit d'escalier according to the French), but more often than not, the same exact conversational situation will come up again where you can use it.
 

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when you stop caring and treat the HB like a dude then it comes naturally to you.

you proly don’t know what to say because you're nervous. and you're nervous because you care what she thinks of you and how you look to her. you need to stop caring about this and everything else will fall into place in time.
 

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Im just gonna state what was already stated because it's true

1. Watch some standup comedy, i suggest Russel Peters

2. Practice outside in the real world

3. If you think of something to say after the conversation is over, keep it for the next time.. IT WILL happen again!

4. Heres some tests.. tell me what you would say to these situations:

HB: "Am i hot?"
You: "(Insert Comment Here)"

HB: "You look pretty good"
You: "(Insert Comment Here)"

HB: "Do you like me?"
You: "(Insert Comment Here)"

HB: "I think you're hot"
You: "(Insert Comment Here)"

HB: "Buy me lunch/beer!"
You: "(Insert Comment Here)"

think of some comeback for these statements, and remember them. Next time a girl says these words, you can say thanks to me, and use your comeback on her since your prepared.
 

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@D V D : I'm going to answer your q's but these are probably not what I would end up saying on the spot. If they were on the spot I would probably end up giving the answer they expected.

1. Run my hand along her skin. "Yeah, I can feel the sweat running off you."

2. "Thanks, you don't look too bad yourself."

3. "Sure, but I'm not sure we'd be good for each other if you need my approval"

4. "Yeah, I seem to have that effect on woman."

5. "Sure, but it's your shout next time."

What do you think of those responses?

Thanks
J
 

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Treat um like your kid brother or some little kid.......

I don't advocate treating a chick like a dude....cause well I don't want to sleep with my friends or any dude for that matter.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I work in sales so a quick wit has sort of coe natural. I just see women as a client and me sleeping with them is the business deal. Ofc with any business deal i always try and get the advantage. A quick wit takes practise and a good mind.

Watch lots of stand up comedy. Steal there ideas. Practise on all girls including UG's. Practise on friends. Me and my friends always take the piss out of each other in a C+F way. Its natural.
 
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