"How do you think our relationship is going?"

[Bigg Boss]

Well I got this question again today from my gf that I've been with for about 4 months. I guess I kinda felt it coming though. She is the one calling 90% of the time. She calls about everyday, but starting around Sunday she kinda slowed down and waited for me to call her I guess. So we only talked 2ce this week. So she noticed how I never call her (I mean damn, I like you alot and all but I'm runnin' outta sh*t to say on the phone). When she called yesterday, I was like "Why haven't you called blah blah", she was like "Well you could've called me". But it's hard to do that when she's always out somewhere (work, practice, AAU game out of town) calling me from someone's cellphone because she doesn't have one. I gave that excuse like I usually do and she was like "Oh well, it doesn't matter anyway". WHOA. WTF is that suppose to mean? For some odd reason I feel that she thinks I'm playing her sorta so maybe she is talking to someone else? I dunno. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions.

And we don't really have alot of energetic conversations anymore. Some topics get old after a while. And we're tired of the just arguing for fun over dumb stuff. Sometimes I get on a ball and just start talking all happy and making her laugh but I can't keep that up 6 days a week. So sometimes we sit there w/ little conversation. And she ends up being the one to end the call (she ended it tonight but she told me to call her in the morning when I wake up).

We don't see each other that often since we both have school (different school), I have work, she has AAU games on some weekends, and it just sucks. This is a good weekend though. But where shall we go tommorow. Movies isn't a good choice (we only been twice but nah). Mall is somethign too typical also. I've already been to her house, she's been to mine also. We've been doing these wack things (We make em fun but still).

Oh and BTW, her answer to her question was : "It's going OK but it could be better". Yes I know that means is not going great, we need to pick it up

So here's my few questions:
What can I do to make her feel better about us? Maybe that answer is obvious, "see her more". What about phone conversation? And also, what should we do tommorow (and Sunday)?

Thanks DJs. This is my main. This is one girl I'm not willing to lose.

 

[MacAvoy]

Stop talking on the phone to her so much. This is a trap that women create that ruins their relationship. Don't get into the habbit of talking to a girl on the phone everyday. The phone should be for setting up dates/meetings not for getting to know each other. You should be doing that in person.

Secondly take some initiative yourself. Call her to set up dates, be the man. Women like a man in control, its attractive. Finally make sure she realizes you are the prize, not the other way around.

Finally most importantly you have to change your attitude. If you put her up on a pedastol and are not willing to lose her, you are going to lose her. You have to act like you are the prize and can get any women you want so she better do everything in her power to keep you. If you think "you can't lose this one" guess what bud, thats exactly how you lose the girl.

 

[Bigg Boss]

Oh see look, she's not on a pedastal. It probably seems like I neglect her since it seems like I hardly make an effort to see her. Or even call her.

I have power in this relationship. She doesn't know that I really don't want to lose her. The vibe I've given her is "you're just one of my b**ches that all baby, I got other things to tend to". Which is where I feel the problem is

 

[MacAvoy]

If your not going to take the advice of two experienced DJ's who've been members here for years and both say the same thing, then your wasting everyone's time.

Your taking the typical denial AFC stance! Peace out.

 

[Bigg Boss]

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What?

I've already pulled her. I already know how to pick up a girl. I don't put any girl I like on a pedastal. I know this.

I'm trying to maintain a relationship. I'm looking for advice on letting us have a happier relationship.