How do you tell she prefers aggressive types or relatively shy types

[TonyWongButOhSoRite]

There isnt any such thing as a shy confident person. I think you mean the strong silent type. If you're shy then its for a reason and that reason is probaly lack of confidence.

 

[gherald]

I like shy guys. Especially if they also seem confident. An intriguing paradox.

how can that be? LOL'ed.

maybe you're just a silent type of person.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I have used the shy guy act to quite good effect in my repertoire. Don't underestimate its usefulness. Well, its not necessarily shy to the point of being weak, just a sort of aloofness.

It really works well in settings where there a loads of aggressive type guys, but in order to use it well, you need to be halfway decent looking and/or different with your own sense of style that stands out.

In fact my best all round game situation is to be around more aggressive type guys, because then it gets the females wondering about you once they do notice you. The trick is to get noticed without looking like you are trying to get noticed.

That really starts the gears going in their heads. Yes, a very effective tool.

I've slept with many a bartender chick by being different and NOT hitting on her.

 

[NickSCFC2000]

I'm only talking about ATTRACTIVE women here

The young ones (18-25), they like the skinny guy. Not to say he's a complete weed who gets bullied.

The older ones (26-35), they like the big muscular guy with a shaved head.

 

[iqqi]

If like iqqi, you aren't confident around other people, your 'self-confidence' (is there any other kind?) is low. Other people, who can handle or excel in social situations have more confidence than you.

Lol, this is so not true. I thought about it for a moment, and nope.

I have a friend, she is fvcking amazing around ppl. In every sense, I'd hire her to host my own party before I would do it myself. She's funny, always talking to random people, she can talk to ANYONE about anything without any warm ups! She laughs alot, and has it all down, she is a little social butterfly.

HOWEVER...She is one of the most unconfident people I know! She has ridiculously low self esteem.

She is constantly coming to me for advice and even simple instructions! On how to be. This is due to my self confidence.

On the other hand, ppl who know me, tend to "catch" me being shy, and are completely surprised... then charmed, to find this out.

Shy doesn't mean that you are AFRAID of ppl, or that you think YOU suck.

Timid, you may be, around ppl, but it doesn't always have to do with fear or self loathing/lack of self confidence. Just because you recognize a weakness doesn't make you NOT confident.

With shy people, their "weakness" is in regards to people they don't know. I honestly don't even know if I'd consider it a weakness.

I don't think other people are going to (or already do) think less of me, or that there is something wrong with me. As a matter of fact I know if I DO start talking or get to know a stranger, they will love me.

But I don't like talking to random people about random sh!t. This makes me shy away from strangers, or from drawing attention to myself. See how the two go together, and still leave out the whole "low self confidence" label?

 

[ketostix]

God I'd hate to agree with iqqi but a person can be outgoing but not be self-confident (Actually a lot of outgoing people aren't really self-confident). And a person can be not out-going (shy)and have high self-confidence. I can't believe a girl like iqqi would understand this but I don't think iqqi is a girl anyway.

 

[iqqi]

I can't believe a girl like iqqi would understand this but I don't think iqqi is a girl anyway.

It's ok, Keto, noone understands me, because I am really God.

 

[Interceptor]

Actually, Iqqi is Alanis Morrisette.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AB-Hsjs94f4

"Hey, Sexy! Hey..how you doin'?"

 

[iqqi]

no way interceptor, no way. she takes herself too seriously. But i dig that uninvited song... that was about one of my angels.

 

[Interceptor]

LOL.
I still like Alanis.
The "Uninvited" song is a great song. She has some good stuff.
"Thank You"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1WJlxjxAZE


I think she's very interesting. She does seem to be a little too serious sometimes, but you can tell she has a sense of humor.
Have you ever seen the "Dogma" movie in its entirety?
Great film. You should check it out.


Anyway, since you're like......God, and all......
What do you say you send me a million bucks?

Thanks, Iq....I mean God.