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How do you take this: Starbucks?

Swashbuckler

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So, I just wanted to get a survey of what you guys think about this. This happened to me last night, and I am just trying to gage if this means anything.

So, Friday night walk into a Starbucks I infrequently go to. There is a cute barista at the cash register that I've seen a few times. She typically flirts with me, so I go in last night and she flirts a little and then says "Would you like the same thing tonight, or are you like me and want to try different things all the time?" Mind you, I didn't even say what I wanted. She just remembered.

How do you guys take baristas at Starbucks remembering your drink order? In my experience, it takes quite a bit to remember a drink order from a while back. Seeing as the Starbucks I always go to by my work, doesn't remember the same drink I order every frickin time... however many times and however consistent the drink, so this girl remembered me from over a week ago and still remembers the drink. It's impressive feat nonetheless.

I'm torn if I should ask her out or not, seeing as she's a hired gun who probably gets hit on constantly... I just think if she flirts with me every time and is remembering my drinks. It's probably some good signs. What do you guys think?
 

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Stop being a pu$$y and just ask her, what have you got to lose? Fortune favours the bold...

"Hi there, what can I get you today?"
"I'll have an espresso plus your phone number..."
 

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Those airheads in there posture themselves as "hip" or "richer" than everyone and usually only VIBE with rich libtards. Now, I bob, jive, and vibe right back with them, but they're just too airy for me to take it any further. I don't feel like I have control when I try gaming one of them. Like you said, they're hit on CONSTANTLY by guys much richer than I am, and probably better "pretty boy" looking than I am, but not "man boy" looking than I am. I'm blue collar. They always Heavily flirt with me when I go in there, usually on business with someone, never on my own. I would never go to such a place on my own - too expensive. That goes for All fast food places these days.

You should push as FAR as you can fvcking push it, and ask her Out! or Get the number, whichever you choose. Make her say yes or no. Then you will know if her, for sure, if her flirting is just how she treats all the customers to keep them coming back for more coffee. It's her job! I'd suspect that's the Real reason for performing so well, and keeping her job. They don't work there just to work there, however, they could take the low-paying job with their sites on landing a rich liberal lawyer there one day.
 

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I'm a noob, but if a cute barista seemed to remember me, I'd ask her out. You've got nothing to lose, and the way you describe it sounds as if she's comfortable with you more than at least a total stranger.
 

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Baristas and Bartenders do the exact same thing. Their proficiency is based on rapport.

If she's flirty and open with you, drop the hammer.

This is one instance I wouldn't advise taking her to a coffee shop for a first-timer.
 

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Well you must of had an impact on her for her to remember your drink, which i am sure you figured out. That would of been a really good time to ask her.

HB: "Would you like the same thing tonight, or are you like me and want to try different things all the time?"
DJ: (look her up and down) I guess i can try something different, whats your number?
HB: (hands number)
DJ: umm kool, btw can i have my usual as well?
 
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