i have to read assigned chapters for my courses. i do the reading, but i feel i'm wasting my time because i'm not absorbing the material. how can i read assigned chapters in the most time effective way while at the same time absorbing the main points? i'm wasting time reading words because i am not getting anything out of it
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
how do you study effectively?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Try taking notes and making a condensed version of what you read.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
Bible's point is well taken. Information that flows from your eyes through your hands and onto paper has a better chance of being retained.
I would also recommend using the Internet to search for additional material on the subject you're trying to study.
Maybe there's a Wikipedia article that explains it better or is written in a livelier fashion.
I would also recommend using the Internet to search for additional material on the subject you're trying to study.
Maybe there's a Wikipedia article that explains it better or is written in a livelier fashion.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Different fields of study, take different forms of memorization...
What're you dealing with john?
What're you dealing with john?
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Lesson one: Avoid Sosuave at all costs. I have been writing a paper all day and I should be done by now.
Have you ever heard of something called SQ3R? Scan, Question, Read, Recite, Review.
I believe the way the method goes is first you scan the chapter, read all the captions and what not. That is supposed to help with retaining things. Then while you read the chapter write questions for each paragraph that the specific paragraph answers. Next after your finished reading, recite the main points (doesn't have to be out loud). Then a few days later review by reading over and answering your questions in the margins.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Adderall? 'cause I have ADD and concentrate worth a shyt, but can't take meds because of a heart condition. I have to do a lil bit of studying over a time or be super-motivated by time 'procrastionation', such is my life, and I cope.