How do you stop people from interrupting you

[NeedChange]

Sometimes when I have a joke, I say the first part then the person I'm telling it to interrupts me, ruining it. How do you get people to stop interrupting you without being a jerk about it.

 

[Page]

I'm not sure how to solve this, maybe there is no solution. Sometimes, people are going to interrupt you or walk away when you're talking.

 

[Easy Tiger]

There might be something else going on here. If you are talking a lot and not engaging other people when you talk, they might be trying to interrupt you to get a word in edgewise and to participate in the conversation. My guess is that this is what is happening if you are often being interrupted. You need to make an honest assessment and work out if you are the guy who never shuts the f___ up. There is always one or two of these people in most social groups. If this is you then try to track down the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. It has a number of good conversational skills hints.

If this is truly not the case, then you need to gently chide people when they interrupt you. Try interrupting their interruption by saying "Lemme just finish this". Or when they finish talking say "Riiiight, okay then. To get back to what I was saying..."

If you do this often enough people will get the hint that you think they are rude. If this doesn't work, and they are a close friend, have a word to them about it quietly. This should fix the problem.

 

[DJ_in_making]

people nowadays are just plain rude. I'm considerate and actually let people finish their conversations, no matter how uninteresting it is.

 

[Kerensky]

Dude just be like this:

You: so i was at the mall the other day and:

Jerk-off: BLAH BLAH HEY GUYS GUESS WHAT

You: dude...dude...this isn't erotic story time, wait till i'm done.

OOOWWWNNEEEDD

 

[Kerensky]

yea or you could do what they said...ye.a..

 

[Distant Light]

What i usually do is just speak alittle loud and keep going. Or i'd say "Hey can't i finish my sentence geez." (mainly say that to girls)

 

[bbestar]

Speak Louder, Speak Faster

 

[Julian]

stop telling sh1tty jokes?

 

[Boner da Stoner]

Originally posted by Julian
stop telling sh1tty jokes?

SAY WHAT!!!

 

[DJ_in_making]

sigh.....doble post

 

[DJ_in_making]

speak with a loud deep that demands authority. And once when someone did that to me I stopped looked at them and said "You're just gonna cut me off like that?" and they were like "oh sorry"

 

[Boner da Stoner]

Originally posted by DJ_in_making
speak with a loud deep that demands authority. And once when someone did that to me I stopped looked at them and said "You're just gonna cut me off like that?" and they were like "oh sorry"

That was NOT C+F well, not C at all! By far, it was the most powerful response though.

:cheer:

 

[MightyMate]

It means they dont respect You. You have to be more thug and arrogant.

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by NeedChange
Sometimes when I have a joke, I say the first part then the person I'm telling it to interrupts me, ruining it. How do you get people to stop interrupting you without being a jerk about it.

Well it depends. If they're unintentionally interrupting because they're excited, just say "shh" and keep talking and ignore what they said. If they're interrupting because they're bored and it's obviously disrespectful to you, look away and to the side with a disappointed look on your face and just stop talking and walk away from them.

If they care about you, they'll get upset at themselves and apologize. Then you tell them "It's okay, but I do expect you to give me the same courtesy I give you."

If they say nothing, then forget about them and work on your ability to own the frame in the meantime.

 

[Docs]

Haha, I find walking away after a inconsiderate interruption an excellent way to show how pissed I am.

Works like a charm.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

I remember in high school I had a really cool biology teacher. He was talking to me explaining how we get bonus points on assignments and ****, when I, being the dumbass 14 year old I was at the time, interrupted him.

He calmly stopped what he was saying, and told me "Look Shizam, I don't appreciate you interrupting me in the middle of my sentence. I respect you and what you're saying, and I expect the same from everyone in this class."

Needless to say I never interrupted him or anyone else rudely like that ever again. If you have a constant problem with people doing it to you, you may just have to lay it out for them.

Emphasis on calmly. Anger shows weakness in this kind of situation. If you just play it cool then people will realize they can't walk all over you.

 

[Gonzalo]

Agree with Shizam. And whatever you do, DONT start talking louder and faster... it will become an AW contest if you give in.

I know some people that ask a question or try to engage in conversation just to start cutting you mid-sentence so they can talk and make their points sound more powerful. Once it really started to get annoying (I think the guy was high or something), I raised my hand and said "stop--check this out" or something similar (definately including the "Stop"). Apparently that was they only way he could see that he was getting too carried away or being annoying.

Also, know your audience. If you are at a loud party or something analogous, and you start telling a long joke to someonel, most probably SOMETHING will come up (music/drinks/obnoxious person) to interrupt you. Just something to consider when saying stuff that takes time to build to a punchline.

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