TheBaconator
Senior Don Juan
With women of course. Right now i'm in the worst slump of my life, and I have a tendency of get attached quick (I know, very AFC). How do you start off when u have no plates?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you start from scratch?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
coolf1r3
Don Juan
I'm more or less in the same spot you are. What I'm doing, however, is working out and improving my self-image. This Friday, I'm going to the mall and getting some new clothes that will hopefully make me feel good. Also, I'm going to aim for 10 cold approaches per day. Girls will see you the way you see yourself.
Good luck to the both of us.:rockon:
Good luck to the both of us.:rockon:
im soon going to be in the same boat as you because im moving countries. to reside in Sydney. ive been told Sydney women are harsh and uptight.
im going to have a dry spell for a while.. but im gonna concentrate on the gym and hope my win-loss ratio will be in my favor in sydney.
Im gonna go all out and hit on all the hot women i see.lol. because i find that once i have two plates..then EVERYTHING seems so much easier. Im not worried too much about either plate coz ive got the other. but my confidence and approach is so suave coz i dont really care if i win or lose with women coz i know ive got something at home already. lol.
anyway advice for you, go to the gym, get active, and be friendly and open, network tons!
dont hit on everything you see around you, sometimes its good to place hit women in friends zones before they place you there because you use them as leverage and a networking tool to get into her 300 friends! lol.
workout
project confidence
network
one new quality cool friend a week minumum
then when you know about 25 women start , pick 2 or 3 and spit game.
put them on rotation and add women to free times in your week.
salt to taste
simmer down.
serve hottttt! lol
im going to have a dry spell for a while.. but im gonna concentrate on the gym and hope my win-loss ratio will be in my favor in sydney.
Im gonna go all out and hit on all the hot women i see.lol. because i find that once i have two plates..then EVERYTHING seems so much easier. Im not worried too much about either plate coz ive got the other. but my confidence and approach is so suave coz i dont really care if i win or lose with women coz i know ive got something at home already. lol.
anyway advice for you, go to the gym, get active, and be friendly and open, network tons!
dont hit on everything you see around you, sometimes its good to place hit women in friends zones before they place you there because you use them as leverage and a networking tool to get into her 300 friends! lol.
workout
project confidence
network
one new quality cool friend a week minumum
then when you know about 25 women start , pick 2 or 3 and spit game.
put them on rotation and add women to free times in your week.
salt to taste
simmer down.
serve hottttt! lol
when I was in that situation, I just tried not to think of girls and just worked on myself. I completely updated my wardrobe. I found a new hobby to get into. I lived in the present for myself. I was single for about a year and for most of it I was completely happy and wasn't even thinking about getting girls. When I was happy with being single it wasn't a problem to find girls, eventually they were just there.
If you focus enough on yourself eventually you'll notice that there are girls who you meet or even may have known a while that show signs of interest in you. If you are out for yourself, you are going to develop a confidence that will attract women because ultimately you won't care if you fail. You live life for you so you won't be trying to win them, they will be trying to win you.
If you focus enough on yourself eventually you'll notice that there are girls who you meet or even may have known a while that show signs of interest in you. If you are out for yourself, you are going to develop a confidence that will attract women because ultimately you won't care if you fail. You live life for you so you won't be trying to win them, they will be trying to win you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When I start from scratch, I begin to focus on other things, instead of girls. A month ago, I had NO leads. I began to focus more on myself, and just making new friends. I've had several long term gfs, and NEVER met one randomly at a bar. I've met them all through friends.
In this current case, I had no leads. I just began to live life, and have fun and not worry about girls. Now, I have two girls who both have potential contacting me regularly to hang out etc... and 1-2 more on the back burner who I am also working on in case the 1st two fall through.
In this current case, I had no leads. I just began to live life, and have fun and not worry about girls. Now, I have two girls who both have potential contacting me regularly to hang out etc... and 1-2 more on the back burner who I am also working on in case the 1st two fall through.
RESEARCH..........I WOULD SUGGEST ACTUALLY BUYING A BOOK.
THEN TRY NET DATING.......SPEED DATING..........SINGLES DANCES......THEN BARS/CLUBS..........THE COLD APPROACHES.......HOOKUP WITH A WING
but it begins with inner game........a foundamental understanding how the mind works with seduction process.
THEN TRY NET DATING.......SPEED DATING..........SINGLES DANCES......THEN BARS/CLUBS..........THE COLD APPROACHES.......HOOKUP WITH A WING
but it begins with inner game........a foundamental understanding how the mind works with seduction process.