"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How do you reward a girl who shows high interest?

OnTheWayUp

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Gents,

There's a lot of good stuff on here about how to deal with flaky girls who get lesser men down. We constantly tell new members to the community that they need to next/ go NC on girls who are disrespecting them. This is a very good thing.

However, what is not so often talked about on here is how to reward a girl who does everything right. Examples: she has sex when you want on your terms, she is available to hang out whenever you want her to be, she looks after you when you're ill or down, she goes on a diet for you, she works on your relationship. She will always reschedule if she is genuinely busy, she is not an AW, she goes down on you regularly, she goes out of her way to please you, she inconveniences herself for you, she offers advice and support when you need it. She has her own life and is not needy, she is loyal, she puts seeing you before her social life, she initiates some of the time, she finds excuses to see you, she cooks for you, she is always positive. etc etc etc.

I'm a firm believer in treating girls well when they treat you well and ignoring them when they treat you badly. Ignoring poor quality girls is easy, but rewarding good behaviour is sometimes construed on here as AFC, and I think that's a mistake. Here are my suggestions for rewarding her, based on my experiences. Obviously doing all of these at once too early would send a girl running!

-Let her sleep over
-Let her use your shower
-Verbally praise and compliment her
-Make her your gf
-Spend time with her
-Spend time with her where you're not just fukking
-Spend time with her during the day
-Invite her to formal events like business dinners as a date if you need one
-Find something small and unique she does for you and notice it
-Add x's to texts (more kisses for better behaviour)
-Be physically affectionate (cuddling etc)
-Marry her (for the guys who believe in marriage)


Any further suggestions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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loveshogun

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OP -

Chances are, if she's a) doing all the things you describe and b) doesn't have some sort of huge personality defect that makes her do those things, then c) you're probably being a certain way with this woman that makes her want to do all these things.

In that case, you are the ultimate man, and she will act as if she's dating the ultimate man. Your presence is reward enough, because all the ingredients are already in the dough.

I admit, even the ultimate man (me) could use a couple of suggestions once in a while to please the ladies who do their part in conducting the love train (my d*ck), but all of the suggestions you've listed are pretty much it.

I dunno. Give her a mushy, lovey-dovey, well thought-out orgasm. A real squirter. I think she'll appreciate that.
 

OnTheWayUp

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Thanks for the contribution, loveshogan, but you have completely missed the point of the post.

If a girl acts "differently" in the sense of behaving well, I feel it is only right that we men change our behaviour accordingly in response and reward her for it. The "ultimate man," as you put it, isn't going to treat all girls the same in every situation. He is going to use his strengths to find a girl (or more than one) who fits his high standards, filtering through the crazies/ BPDs/ clingers/ b1tches in the process. Different quality girls deserve to be treated with different levels of respect. My post is about precisely how we should go about rewarding the rare girls who meet our standards.
 
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