"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do you respond when your "Target" flirts with other guys.

dj_phobia

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Scenario: You like a girl, she knows that you like her, and she has expressed a fair bit of interest in you too. You see her flirting with other guys in a social situation. How would you react (Other than the basic stuff about staying cool and not looking jealous). Here are some of the options, why would you or wouldnt you do one of the following? What else would you do?


1. Would you flirt with other girls in the room too to get back at her?

2. Would you just completely ignore the flirting and pretend you are in your own world?

3. Would you say something to suggest that the two would be good together (to show that you really dont care).

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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4. I smile & laugh. act like i'm glad shes enjoying herself. Like I'm a secure man, and a good sport. in the end, they are in my bed.
 
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Joe Stud said:
4. I smile & laugh. act like i'm glad shes enjoying herself. Like I'm a secure man, and a good sport. in the end, they are in my bed.
I second this :rockon:
 

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Joe Stud said:
4. I smile & laugh. act like i'm glad shes enjoying herself. Like I'm a secure man, and a good sport. in the end, they are in my bed.
I agree as well. But at the same time I see no problem to flirt with other girls as well.
 

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I agree with the above. However, I do think flirting with other women could help score some brownie points, as long as its not done as a reactive measure, i.e. you dont do it straight away just after she has said something flirtatious to someone. You wait for some time, and then flirt with someone else.

Thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko

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1. Would you flirt with other girls in the room too to get back at her?
I would flirt with other girls but don't do it to get back at her, do it because you owe it to yourself.
 

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I always laugh and tell her "Yeah, you two would make a great couple"
 

thedude4242

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but isnt it a little bit more than just acting confident and not caring? sometimes does it pay just to be an *******. say something like, man finally this girl cant handle me so I dont want her getting messed up so you take her. or say something like you gonna leave with me or watch another girl leave with me.
 

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One time I flirted with other girls to "get back" and the gal I was with yells across the room, "Poon! blah blah" like I was on some kind of leash shaking her head at me. She was a playa girl and good at maintaining frame in her favor sorta --- because a woman can only maintain as much frame as you're willing to give her. I try to give them Nothing, unless I'm giving them my d1ck.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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thedude4242

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I went and flirted with this one girl who came up and talk to me for a minute and kissed me on the cheek. never seen her before. I decided to go talk to her to make another women recognize. well I had a long time fvck buddy and talking to her trying to make another women see it paid good.
 

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5. I know I am pretty amazing and you're afraid you'll mess it up with such a great guy like me... so instead you decide to sabotage our rapport by fliritng with some other guys... hey that sucks... if you play your cards right there's a chance you can have me... but... I do understand if you'd wanna settle for the b-grade stuff.

my penis is also enormous.. I just want to work that in into this post.
 

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American boys don't know what being a secure man is! Letting some tramp play you is not being secure. Just get up and leave her. Don't look back. She is disrespecting you as a male.

Another reason why I am so glad I never date in America. This is just classic America circa 2010.
 

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lol bigjimbo. i think you have this confused with one of those al-queda, american hating forums. go ahead and find one of those already.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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