"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you respond to.... Wat?

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Ok this happens to me all the time. I'll be talking to a girl, and then there comes a moment where we are both just looking into each other's eyes. Not like an awkward moment, but it's like we are both becoming aware of our sexual states. I dunno it's hard to describe. It's a good moment, not awkward.

Anyway, after a few seconds, the girl goes "What?" in a curious way. I'm sure you guys have had this happen. It happens to me all the time. I think it happens when the subcommunication is getting strong or something. You guys know what I'm talking about?

So what do you guys respond with?

I usually say "I didn't say anything" in a sly way, or else I just repeat it back.

Then she might giggle or whatever and the conversation continues.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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time to kiss her..........silence is golden.........so take advantage of that what with an action. Time for words and theres a time for action.
 

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I say when she asks "why?" just go "would you like to kiss me" mystery style. If she says No then you can say something like "Then why are you so quiet I thought you were thinking about it"

I think mystery's line would be "It just looked like you had something on your mind".

If you are confident enough just get close to her and kiss her or say "come here close" and kiss her.
 

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what if your already in bed and kissing and this still happens
 

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You run out of bed and jump off a 14th floor balcony
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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then YR A WUSS..............or a chic in denial
 

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no but sumtimes u will be kissing for hours (nt really having sex cos shes on her period) and we will stop and she will smile and look into my eyes and ill do the same sometimes ill be like wat sometimes she will :p it doesnt make me a wuss
 

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she: What?
You: Im double checking that the stars are aligned right so i can confirm this is the perfect time to kiss those delicious lips.

OR

You: Come closer..
you smell divine..
<<insert kiss>>
 

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She: What?
You: "I think its about time you meet my chainsaw"

OR

"Do you think we could invite your best friend into this?"
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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lol...

She is probably saying what because, she is wondering what your staring at! and why you aint saying nothing...

Then, she giggles cause she knows your drooling over her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Interesting question.

I'll be browsing on a masculinity forum and this guy puts up a thread asking what to do if a meaningful silence coupled with positive eye-contact occurs mid-conversation with a girl he finds attractive.

How do you respond to that?

:D

Wht, it's quite simple. If you're too held-back to simply move over to her and kiss her, or ask her boldy if she wants to kiss you (or boldly state that you want to kiss her), you'll end up asking her "What?" in return, accompanied with a smile. Inevitably, the fluff will continue and the moment to kiss is lost. Of course, going for it as she focuses on the talk again, taking her by surprise, is effective too.

If the moment is lost, not to worry. If the interest is mutual and strong enough, it only reinforces the sexual tension, and other such moments will arise. In fact, letting a moment like that pass for the first time is probably more effective if done with confidence and strong eye-contact from you, as it demonstrates the illustrious "value". Though nothing is lost if you were more uncomfortable than confident if said girl is interested enough. ;)

But to answer your question: you respond according to your guts. I think you did this time. If you want to do it differently next time, just lose your thoughts about the situation (which put you at a distance and into a state of fear of rejection), embrace your feeling and gut and go in for the kiss.

If she stumbles and looks suprised or retorts with a smile and a "What are you doing?!", you simply state "Something I wanted to do" and smile in return. Women, interested women, love that.

But you know this instinctively deep down, don't you?. There was no real need to ask that here, now was there? :D

Good luck. :up:
 

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so one of the girls that i use dto date.
first time i kissed here went smtn like this.

we were parked up after dinner on a hill over lookin the city.
and she was talking..and talking and talking..
and i tell you them lips moving was all i was focussing on..
half way thru she asked me "what i just say to you?
n i was like "huh? i dunno...i wasnt listenin.."
she "huh!" :O "I could tell what were you doing then?"

Me: looking at your lips move..

she: blushed and goes why?
me: Come here.
she: why?
me: I been thinkin of kissing you for like the last half hour atleast!..i cant wait any longer..
she jumped me.
 

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Her: "What?"
Me: "Im just wondering what it would be like to kiss you"
 

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slickaz said:
so one of the girls that i use dto date.
first time i kissed here went smtn like this.

we were parked up after dinner on a hill over lookin the city.
and she was talking..and talking and talking..
and i tell you them lips moving was all i was focussing on..
half way thru she asked me "what i just say to you?
n i was like "huh? i dunno...i wasnt listenin.."
she "huh!" :O "I could tell what were you doing then?"

Me: looking at your lips move..

she: blushed and goes why?
me: Come here.
she: why?
me: I been thinkin of kissing you for like the last half hour atleast!..i cant wait any longer..
she jumped me.
This.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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