"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How do you respond to girls fishing for compliments?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Why would you be afraid of busting on a girl jokingly?nismo-4 said:
Sometimes guys are a bit slow of the mark, and need a bit of prompting to say pick up the pace, and one way is getting him to compliment you. If the guy compliments my hair or smile, i do move things along by saying i prefer my breasts, which come second to my firm round ass. Hopefully by then he gets the hint, and comes in for a feel.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I think compliments are fine, as long as they are not empty ass-kissing. Most guys are blatant ass-kissers to women. As soon as they sense that she wants a compliment, they will gush a lot of blather about how great something is. If a girl says, "do you like my _____?" don't just spit out an affirmative answer. I usually say something like, "I don't know. Let me look." And then I will spend a brief moment actually thinking about what she asked...and then simply tell her what I think. Usually, I can find something nice to say. The point is to actually have a conversation. Compliments are ok if they are genuine. But part of being a genuine person is telling her you don't like something when that is really the case.
1. It better be sincere, deep, not superficial.
2. Be ORIGINAL in the way you PHRASE your compliments. You're looking beautiful WORKS... but if you put a bit more effort... You're beautiful, smart, how come you didn't join a pageant contest?
3. Don't overdo it. Respect the value of scarcity. That way, your next compliment hits her even harder.
never give rewards if the girl did nothing to receive them. AFC all over it.
it sorta happened today, a girl in my class came with a new haircut. I said congratz on the new haircut
I don't really have an opinion when it comes it haircuts, it was a haircut. she looked good before it and she looks as good after it(in a different style) not particularly scoring high in my book
but in the middle of class she asks me if I think it looks nice. I don't feel you have a choice, I said "yeah they do" I didn't overdo it
I really think it is impossible to say no, or not really or not much or regular or give any average rating when it comes to cases like this At the same time, guys who notice haircuts and obviously understand style a little bit are rare, so I never miss an opportunity to say a girl's new hair looks nice. I'm just appreciating, not trying to get anything out of her.
Also, noticing smaller details is great too. Try noticing if she's done her nails, or if she has new earrings, or something like that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
5string
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I notice and might occasionally say stuff(didn't happen with this particular girl yet) her fault though, she always leaves class with this other guymarinetti said:
let him giver he the compliments, I am not getting so much as a polite hello on regular days, I feel as if she asked me to see if it will impress him lolI just don't like compliments to be forced out of me this way, I like to give genuine compliments, with eye contact and sincerity and details and all that, but when I am asked, I get confused
Does my butt look too big?
Yes you're giving hippos a run for their money! (laugh)
Do you like my hair?
Yes I do the bull dyke look is in this summer! (laugh)
Do you like this dress(any artical of clothing)?
Yes, I have one just like it and I love wearing it! (laugh)
Make up your own ....try to be funny though ---not mean.....
This makes them crazy that you won't be serious
Just make sure to hold your ground and refuse to give them a straight answer
Complements are for very special ocassions
Chicks who fish for them are used to p*ssy boys jumping at the chance to "be nice" and compliment them....suplication p*ssies
It's kind of a sh!t test.....don't fall for it
Always .....Agree and Amplify
Try this and you will be AMAZED at what you can get away with ...AND...how much you control a once awkward situation
Over and Out.