Hello Friend,
If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.
It will be the most efficient use of your time.
And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.
Thank you for visiting and have a great day!
How do you respond to girls fishing for compliments?
- Thread starter Lexington
- Start date
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
nismo-4
Moderator
- Joined
- Jan 31, 2005
- Messages
- 4,449
- Reaction score
- 1,144
Bust on her in a joking way, and don't be afraid to do it FTW!
MisterMcGee
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 29, 2008
- Messages
- 825
- Reaction score
- 18
Why would you be afraid of busting on a girl jokingly?nismo-4 said:
The question is, is she after a compliment compliment, or is she after an erotic sexy compliment.
Sometimes guys are a bit slow of the mark, and need a bit of prompting to say pick up the pace, and one way is getting him to compliment you. If the guy compliments my hair or smile, i do move things along by saying i prefer my breasts, which come second to my firm round ass. Hopefully by then he gets the hint, and comes in for a feel.
Sometimes guys are a bit slow of the mark, and need a bit of prompting to say pick up the pace, and one way is getting him to compliment you. If the guy compliments my hair or smile, i do move things along by saying i prefer my breasts, which come second to my firm round ass. Hopefully by then he gets the hint, and comes in for a feel.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Compliment-fishing is a big indicator of interest. Just don't blow it by sucking up to her.
I think compliments are fine, as long as they are not empty ass-kissing. Most guys are blatant ass-kissers to women. As soon as they sense that she wants a compliment, they will gush a lot of blather about how great something is. If a girl says, "do you like my _____?" don't just spit out an affirmative answer. I usually say something like, "I don't know. Let me look." And then I will spend a brief moment actually thinking about what she asked...and then simply tell her what I think. Usually, I can find something nice to say. The point is to actually have a conversation. Compliments are ok if they are genuine. But part of being a genuine person is telling her you don't like something when that is really the case.
I think compliments are fine, as long as they are not empty ass-kissing. Most guys are blatant ass-kissers to women. As soon as they sense that she wants a compliment, they will gush a lot of blather about how great something is. If a girl says, "do you like my _____?" don't just spit out an affirmative answer. I usually say something like, "I don't know. Let me look." And then I will spend a brief moment actually thinking about what she asked...and then simply tell her what I think. Usually, I can find something nice to say. The point is to actually have a conversation. Compliments are ok if they are genuine. But part of being a genuine person is telling her you don't like something when that is really the case.
My rules to complimenting women.
1. It better be sincere, deep, not superficial.
2. Be ORIGINAL in the way you PHRASE your compliments. You're looking beautiful WORKS... but if you put a bit more effort... You're beautiful, smart, how come you didn't join a pageant contest?
3. Don't overdo it. Respect the value of scarcity. That way, your next compliment hits her even harder.
1. It better be sincere, deep, not superficial.
2. Be ORIGINAL in the way you PHRASE your compliments. You're looking beautiful WORKS... but if you put a bit more effort... You're beautiful, smart, how come you didn't join a pageant contest?
3. Don't overdo it. Respect the value of scarcity. That way, your next compliment hits her even harder.
i avoid giving compliments unless she owes one from me.. such as giving me something nice i'll throw her the 'reward' of a compliment. she kisses me well so i tell her mmm your lips are so nice
never give rewards if the girl did nothing to receive them. AFC all over it.
never give rewards if the girl did nothing to receive them. AFC all over it.
bumping an old thread
it sorta happened today, a girl in my class came with a new haircut. I said congratz on the new haircut
I don't really have an opinion when it comes it haircuts, it was a haircut. she looked good before it and she looks as good after it(in a different style) not particularly scoring high in my book
but in the middle of class she asks me if I think it looks nice. I don't feel you have a choice, I said "yeah they do" I didn't overdo it
I really think it is impossible to say no, or not really or not much or regular or give any average rating when it comes to cases like this
it sorta happened today, a girl in my class came with a new haircut. I said congratz on the new haircut
I don't really have an opinion when it comes it haircuts, it was a haircut. she looked good before it and she looks as good after it(in a different style) not particularly scoring high in my book
but in the middle of class she asks me if I think it looks nice. I don't feel you have a choice, I said "yeah they do" I didn't overdo it
I really think it is impossible to say no, or not really or not much or regular or give any average rating when it comes to cases like this bookman, if you just said 'Congratulations' she may have been trying to genuinely figure out if you thought it looked nice or not.
At the same time, guys who notice haircuts and obviously understand style a little bit are rare, so I never miss an opportunity to say a girl's new hair looks nice. I'm just appreciating, not trying to get anything out of her.
Also, noticing smaller details is great too. Try noticing if she's done her nails, or if she has new earrings, or something like that.
At the same time, guys who notice haircuts and obviously understand style a little bit are rare, so I never miss an opportunity to say a girl's new hair looks nice. I'm just appreciating, not trying to get anything out of her.
Also, noticing smaller details is great too. Try noticing if she's done her nails, or if she has new earrings, or something like that.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
5string
Master Don Juan
Interesting thread. My wife continually asks me things like "does my butt look fat"? "How do my boobs look"? "Are my pants tight enough"? My hair looks bad huh"? I hear it every day. I also never validate any of it. I'll just say something like "ahh, looks the same as it did yesterday" or "I hadnt really noticed" or something of the like. Drives her nuts when I don't give her direct compliments. Keeps her on her toes. She must have had a history of AFC orbiters who fell for that female nonsense. Once in awhile I'll give her a direct compliment, but never in response to a question about her appearance. I just don't go there.
I notice and might occasionally say stuff(didn't happen with this particular girl yet) her fault though, she always leaves class with this other guymarinetti said:
let him giver he the compliments, I am not getting so much as a polite hello on regular days, I feel as if she asked me to see if it will impress him lolI just don't like compliments to be forced out of me this way, I like to give genuine compliments, with eye contact and sincerity and details and all that, but when I am asked, I get confused
Agree and Amplify (over state ...exagerate)---- with humor
Does my butt look too big?
Yes you're giving hippos a run for their money! (laugh)
Do you like my hair?
Yes I do the bull dyke look is in this summer! (laugh)
Do you like this dress(any artical of clothing)?
Yes, I have one just like it and I love wearing it! (laugh)
Make up your own ....try to be funny though ---not mean.....
This makes them crazy that you won't be serious
Just make sure to hold your ground and refuse to give them a straight answer
Complements are for very special ocassions
Chicks who fish for them are used to p*ssy boys jumping at the chance to "be nice" and compliment them....suplication p*ssies
It's kind of a sh!t test.....don't fall for it
Always .....Agree and Amplify
Try this and you will be AMAZED at what you can get away with ...AND...how much you control a once awkward situation
Over and Out.
Does my butt look too big?
Yes you're giving hippos a run for their money! (laugh)
Do you like my hair?
Yes I do the bull dyke look is in this summer! (laugh)
Do you like this dress(any artical of clothing)?
Yes, I have one just like it and I love wearing it! (laugh)
Make up your own ....try to be funny though ---not mean.....
This makes them crazy that you won't be serious
Just make sure to hold your ground and refuse to give them a straight answer
Complements are for very special ocassions
Chicks who fish for them are used to p*ssy boys jumping at the chance to "be nice" and compliment them....suplication p*ssies
It's kind of a sh!t test.....don't fall for it
Always .....Agree and Amplify
Try this and you will be AMAZED at what you can get away with ...AND...how much you control a once awkward situation
Over and Out.