How do you react when you meet a girl you did NC with

[Broo]

I had a bad case of oneitis with a girl I really liked just a while back. I got so many mixed signals from her, and that just messed up my head. I couldn't accept the fact that she was just leading me on, and using me for her ego boost. She also wanted to use me for her career, because we work in the creative industry and she wanted to work together on a project.

A couple of days pass, and sleepless nights, I finally wrapped my head around the situation. I call her up and told her I just agreed because I was feeling guilty if I didn't push through with it because I already said yes, but finally I told her I just couldn't work with her. (because I felt she was just using me.) She told me to take my time, and I just said that's all bye. Deleted her from cellphone, FB, etc. Two days later I went out to a pub with a couple of friends, first person I see is her.

My heart just started racing, vision started getting dark. I dunno maybe because I was mad at the fact that I let the situation come to that. Luckily our eyes didn't meet, and I told my friends that I should go out first, let my anger cool off. What should've I done? If our eyes do meet, do I still greet someone like that?

 

[PlayHer Man]

Problems like this rarely occur when you spin plates.

Once a man takes women of the pedestal in his mind and sees them as they truly are.. that's when a man can truly be HIMSELF with no apologies in the presence of women.

As a man, you should see yourself as "better" than her. Just like how you feel around kids. Smarter, stronger, wiser and just BETTER.

Once you reach this level, you become immune to most female manipulation and mind-games. Sex becomes more fun and women in general are more fun to be around.. believe it or not. You will feel a ZEN state come over you and you'll feel more free, powerful and in control than ever before.

 

[switch]

NC is for loser betas who have no control over their emotions.
its an ego-protective mechanism.thats why it so popular.most betas want to save their bruised ego, by denying or avoiding the one that bruised their ego.it basically says "im butthurt".

ive found out that "i give no fvcks" is a better approach. a lot of women say "omg , this guy has such high self esteem blah blah blah" or "this guy is so mysterious blah blah" << they say this about a guy who gets rejected but acts like nothing happened the next minute.

"omg he is a creeeeeep" or " loser" ,or the punch line "oh poor *name* i feel sorry for him" ... these are said about NC guys

never NC a girl,instead try to find a way to use and manipulate the sh!t out of her.

only case you should NC is a BPD cvnt, since they fawk you over anyway.

playher spinning plates is good , but the advice never works , why?
because most men cant even find a decent date, they lack options(hence the reason for oneitis)
IMO to solve oneitis isn't easy, you can only transfer oneitis from one person to the next.

we need a better solution for the general populace

 

[SirFratserlot]

NC is for loser betas who have no control over their emotions.
its an ego-protective mechanism.thats why it so popular.most betas want to save their bruised ego, by denying or avoiding the one that bruised their ego.it basically says "im butthurt".

ive found out that "i give no fvcks" is a better approach. a lot of women say "omg , this guy has such high self esteem blah blah blah" or "this guy is so mysterious blah blah" << they say this about a guy who gets rejected but acts like nothing happened the next minute.

"omg he is a creeeeeep" or " loser" ,or the punch line "oh poor *name* i feel sorry for him" ... these are said about NC guys

never NC a girl,instead try to find a way to use and manipulate the sh!t out of her.

only case you should NC is a BPD cvnt, since they fawk you over anyway.

playher spinning plates is good , but the advice never works , why?
because most men cant even find a decent date, they lack options(hence the reason for oneitis)
IMO to solve oneitis isn't easy, you can only transfer oneitis from one person to the next.

we need a better solution for the general populace

This right here. I agree with the transfer part lol

 

[jay07]

NC is for loser betas who have no control over their emotions.
its an ego-protective mechanism.thats why it so popular.most betas want to save their bruised ego, by denying or avoiding the one that bruised their ego.it basically says "im butthurt".

ive found out that "i give no fvcks" is a better approach. a lot of women say "omg , this guy has such high self esteem blah blah blah" or "this guy is so mysterious blah blah" << they say this about a guy who gets rejected but acts like nothing happened the next minute.

"omg he is a creeeeeep" or " loser" ,or the punch line "oh poor *name* i feel sorry for him" ... these are said about NC guys

never NC a girl,instead try to find a way to use and manipulate the sh!t out of her.

only case you should NC is a BPD cvnt, since they fawk you over anyway.

playher spinning plates is good , but the advice never works , why?
because most men cant even find a decent date, they lack options(hence the reason for oneitis)
IMO to solve oneitis isn't easy, you can only transfer oneitis from one person to the next.

we need a better solution for the general populace

So, what do you recommend after a 'breakup' or such like the OP case?

Ignore them until they contact you first?

 

[PlayHer Man]

NC is for loser betas who have no control over their emotions.
its an ego-protective mechanism.thats why it so popular.most betas want to save their bruised ego, by denying or avoiding the one that bruised their ego.it basically says "im butthurt".

ive found out that "i give no fvcks" is a better approach. a lot of women say "omg , this guy has such high self esteem blah blah blah" or "this guy is so mysterious blah blah" << they say this about a guy who gets rejected but acts like nothing happened the next minute.

"omg he is a creeeeeep" or " loser" ,or the punch line "oh poor *name* i feel sorry for him" ... these are said about NC guys

never NC a girl,instead try to find a way to use and manipulate the sh!t out of her.

only case you should NC is a BPD cvnt, since they fawk you over anyway.

playher spinning plates is good , but the advice never works , why?
because most men cant even find a decent date, they lack options(hence the reason for oneitis)
IMO to solve oneitis isn't easy, you can only transfer oneitis from one person to the next.

we need a better solution for the general populace

Interesting perspective Switch. I see what you're saying.

I've always viewed NC as a time saver. The purpose is to rid yourself of a toxic relationship that brings nothing positive to your life. I've done NC many times for the sake of that alone. Its not about being butthurt, its about not wasting any more of your time on a cold fish.

One girl I went NC on in December finally texted me this month.. asking me how I was. I said "I'm great". That was it. I didn't ask her how she was or anything like that (because I don't care).

For me.. NC means not doing any work AT ALL. If she wants to come into my life in a way that is convenient, easy or worthwhile for ME.. then she is welcome. But I will not lift a finger to do any WORK in this relationship.

 

[Broo]

Actually, the truth is I was hurt. Can't deny that. But as a man, what's the right thing to do? When you see the girl just act like nothing happened, be casual, smile? Or just ignore her?

 

[switch]

So, what do you recommend after a 'breakup' or such like the OP case?

Ignore them until they contact you first?

nope. just act as if nothing ever happened. don't give a fvck.
example: after a break up, the next time you see her ,you treat her like another woman. or after rejection, you immediately act as if nothing happened.
you RESET everything.just like resetting your phone.RESET.

how many guys do you know who act like that? ZERO
yet we know many guys who go NC, lots of guys who plea, cry and go aboard the HMS-AFC to try and win her back, many guys who try to make her jealousor LJBF her in hopes that miracle will happen on miracle street on christmas eve. :nono:

how many guys have the nerves to RESET and not give a flying fvck as if they got alzheimers?

 

[Broo]

So you're saying no matter what I did in the past, acting like a chump and all that. Telling her that I can't work with her, ignoring her, deleting her. When I see her again I should act like nothing happened, like she's just somebody I know. That's all I need to put in my head?

 

[LearningSlowly]

So you're saying no matter what I did in the past, acting like a chump and all that. Telling her that I can't work with her, ignoring her, deleting her. When I see her again I should act like nothing happened, like she's just somebody I know. That's all I need to put in my head?

You were with your friends. She was in the same room as you. You werent talking to her, there was no awkward conversation, it wasnt a very big deal.

I think you did the right thing going NC. It seemed like she was flirting to make her career better. So you cut her out of your life, that's fine.

So you see her at the bar. Thats fine. Maybe she waves at you. Give her a smile and a nod, and nothing else. Be with your friends.

If she comes to talk to you. Tell her "Good to see you. I need to go to the bathroom, bye!"

Stop reacting so much.

 

[Uncharted]

Pretend she is a guy friend or a coworker that you don't really know. If you saw them you would probably lock eyes, nod your head like saying "hey" then move on. Don't approach her. If she approaches just make small talk but try to end the conversation first.

Edit: just thought of this...

I dated a coworker for a few months (I know) but now I see her almost every day. When I walk by her, I just smile and say hey. She smiles back and says hey or hi and that's it. I never try to initiate a long conversation with her. It's not awkward because I don't make it awkward.