How do you put the past behind you?

[One on One]

I know and believe that the past is meaningless and the only thing that matters it the present, but yet I still struggle with dealing with my past. I was a loser in high school. I never hung out with people outside of school, never went to parties, never had a girl, etc. Then, the first few years of college I was all stuck-up and anti-fun. I was one of those don't drink crusaders (I wasn't vocal about it, but it was how I felt). Now, I've changed completely and instead of focusing on the stupid ****, I've learned the key to happiness is friends and socializing.

But, I don't have many friends because I didn't make many in the past. I have a tenuous social life and I fear that it could all slip away. It's so hard to maintain when the fear of returning to your former self is right there. I'm constantly thinking about how my life is much improved, but then I always worry that it will fall apart again.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by dave134
But, I don't have many friends because I didn't make many in the past. I have a tenuous social life and I fear that it could all slip away. It's so hard to maintain when the fear of returning to your former self is right there. I'm constantly thinking about how my life is much improved, but then I always worry that it will fall apart again.

I have been in the same situation as you. I was a total loser in HS, didn't go out on the weekends, never spoke to girls. Had ONE good friend.

Then I got to university and I changed a lot, socialised made lots of friends, met women. Guess what? By the end of my second year I had revereted almost COMPLETELY back to my old self.

Now in my third year, I have progressed further than my first year. I have met more women and made more friends. I can't believe how much I've improved. But I think I'm about to enter a slump (might not work out with the girl I like). But I will look back at my mistakes, and I will overcome the slump and be a better man for it.

The point is as you become a DJ you will find you constantly slip back to AFC, but each time you do, it's less severe than the time before. Keep pushing to improve yourself. DOn't give up. Life's to short to let fears hold you back.

Santos

 

[matius]

Maybe try to recite some words when you feel down:

let it ALL through - forget the past - release the heat - don't take a back seat defeat.

 

[Reto]

Being a loner isn't being AFC or a loser. Be who you want to be. Don't worry what other people think. Thier opinions don't matter.

Most people out there have friends because they have to have them. I mean, they don't know what to do by them selves. I guess thier co-dependent.

I was a loner for years. Now, I have a few "friends" and lots of aquantences (sp). I only hang out with who I want when I want. If I want to go do something and there is no one available, I go any way. I have no problem staying home on a saturday night, if that's what I want to do.

 

[trajhenkhet]

One epiphany I had for this thread: Only one can make oneself truly content.

 

[YILMAZ]

"I've learned the key to happiness is friends and socializing."


This is important but I dont believe that friends and socializing is the key to happiness.

 

[PEACEDJ]

Man, your thinking like a girl man. Don't speak your actions and don't think too much. Don't waste your time thinking, instead actually take what you thought about and make them reality.

 

[Mr. Mystery]

How do I put the past behind me??

Focus on your future.

Mr. Mystery