Ive come along way since last year, confidence is high and Im the envy of my friends at the bars since I can cold approach with no fear. But as far as Ive come I still have the same damn problem, and that is when a girl shows interest in me, I fall too hard too fast, which as some of you if not all know, that isnt good. So how do you prevent this from happening, I just started seeing a girl, but shes getting flaky (keep in mind it is exam time so maybe shes legit busy) Anyways thanks in advance.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
How do you prevent falling for a girl too fast?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
omkara
Senior Don Juan
man, I have lost so much p**** that way! lol I think in a way it may be good to have a high level of appreciation, because then it can be really intense when it does work out. Contrast that with the guy who gets so much *** but is bored of with his life. (From what I've read that does happen).
I'm not one to give advice, but women like a guy who can show some self-control. The longer you can hold off showing that you want her, the better. On the other hand, we are also told that we are supposed to escalate. This is how I got in trouble the last time. I should have just played it cool. So, how to reconcile the contradiction between escalating, and pretending not to be interested in sex? There are times I've lost out by not taking an opportunity when I had it, and at other times I've lost out by admitting that I was attracted to the girl...
I'm not one to give advice, but women like a guy who can show some self-control. The longer you can hold off showing that you want her, the better. On the other hand, we are also told that we are supposed to escalate. This is how I got in trouble the last time. I should have just played it cool. So, how to reconcile the contradiction between escalating, and pretending not to be interested in sex? There are times I've lost out by not taking an opportunity when I had it, and at other times I've lost out by admitting that I was attracted to the girl...
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
You should be building the eco sytem, the pipeline, as the say, or spinning more plates.
When you have options, the "one" only takes up a fraction of your attention.
When you have options, the "one" only takes up a fraction of your attention.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
double post
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
omkara
Senior Don Juan
Don't worry you are young. You have plenty of time to get it right.
I think you are right about that awkwardness thing. That makes sense... it is good to escalate as long as it's not awkward.
The last time I turned off some girl, she stopped responding to my emails. And that means no IL = game over. There is no point trying to write her anymore. That would just make me look more pathetic. Anyway what happened was, I said something really stupid. We went out ONCE and she seemed very interested, so I thought I could get away with being a little "romantic" and I emailed her and said, "hey it was great chatting with you on Friday. You looked amazing.
I will be busy for a few weeks but I will get back to you..." etc. etc. Now of course, since I lost contact with her, I realize that it was stupid to say that. If I had just played it cool, we could still at least hang out instead of her ignoring me. I had already showed sexual interest, so my best guess is that in this case I overdid it and either scared her off, came off as creepy, or both. Oh well.... I will be sure not to do that next time.
I think you are right about that awkwardness thing. That makes sense... it is good to escalate as long as it's not awkward.
The last time I turned off some girl, she stopped responding to my emails. And that means no IL = game over. There is no point trying to write her anymore. That would just make me look more pathetic. Anyway what happened was, I said something really stupid. We went out ONCE and she seemed very interested, so I thought I could get away with being a little "romantic" and I emailed her and said, "hey it was great chatting with you on Friday. You looked amazing.
I will be busy for a few weeks but I will get back to you..." etc. etc. Now of course, since I lost contact with her, I realize that it was stupid to say that. If I had just played it cool, we could still at least hang out instead of her ignoring me. I had already showed sexual interest, so my best guess is that in this case I overdid it and either scared her off, came off as creepy, or both. Oh well.... I will be sure not to do that next time.bluemanson
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sometimes the girl you interested in looks like she is interested in you. lots of IOI's. we went out for lunch and after that i thort was a good time to make a move but when i made my move she backed off, and now she is way more distant then the beginning.
She hardly replies to my mails but when i see her she all cool and chats to me and stuff but i know she prob just being friendly cos deep down i know she not interested.
so now im just backing off big time. i take about half a day to a day to reply to her mails. when i see her i say hi. smile and walk away. im not giving her the attention she used to get from me, although i still am interested cos she makes my heart race each time i see her but slowly but surely il get over her.
You know what i noticed that there was a huge shift of power before i did anything and after.
before, she would sit by me and visit alot, watch movies, she even told me that she has nothing to do when im not with her and she bored.
but as soon as i made a move that power moved to her somehow. I dont know how it happened
But one thing for sure I want that power back!!!!!!!!
If you have any ideas on how to get it back let me know please
She hardly replies to my mails but when i see her she all cool and chats to me and stuff but i know she prob just being friendly cos deep down i know she not interested.
so now im just backing off big time. i take about half a day to a day to reply to her mails. when i see her i say hi. smile and walk away. im not giving her the attention she used to get from me, although i still am interested cos she makes my heart race each time i see her but slowly but surely il get over her.
You know what i noticed that there was a huge shift of power before i did anything and after.
before, she would sit by me and visit alot, watch movies, she even told me that she has nothing to do when im not with her and she bored.
but as soon as i made a move that power moved to her somehow. I dont know how it happened
But one thing for sure I want that power back!!!!!!!!
If you have any ideas on how to get it back let me know please
Kevin Feng
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If you're falling for a girl too quick, it means you only have one girl that you're currently working on.
Here's the deal, there's nothing wrong with falling for a girl, like you said, just don't do it too quickly. At this point, you guys aren't even dating and if you are seeing other girls, it wouldn't be fair of her to keep you pinned down, as a matter of fact, she'll respect you more and it'll be a DHV if you're gaming other girls.
Get back out in field and get more numbers and the feelings should subside.
-Kevin
Here's the deal, there's nothing wrong with falling for a girl, like you said, just don't do it too quickly. At this point, you guys aren't even dating and if you are seeing other girls, it wouldn't be fair of her to keep you pinned down, as a matter of fact, she'll respect you more and it'll be a DHV if you're gaming other girls.
Get back out in field and get more numbers and the feelings should subside.
-Kevin
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
The key is not to see her too much.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hearbreaker IV
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Have other girls available, and don't see her too much! You have hobbies and a life right?