how do you pick up girls and meet em-in public places- without being stalkerish

[joe45]

how do you pick up girl/ meet girls in random places-library, london drugs, , grocery store, bookstore without being a stalkerish or a stalker. i mean if you see a good looking girl, and she walking down the aisle you can;t just go up and say hello you have to follow her to her destination-be it magazine section where she is looking and then begin saying hello and talking right. how do you do that without being stalkerish

i think today some girl might have reported me to security at the library for being stalkerish. i mean if they do catch me what will happen. i mean i donlt follow them home or anything , just to follow them and see were they are going so i can go and chat and say hello ,make small talk and xchange info for coffee....etc

to what point should i stop and what point should i continue.



all i do or say to the girls is hello how are you, what you readng and nothing sexual or mean. just friendly chat. and try to get her number or email or i give out mine and ask her to email or call me. i mean you can;t do this when she is just walking in the library you have to wait for her to settle in her destination(the magazine section, the fiction section and she is looking for books) or when there are too many ppl around you want to wait for her to get out of that area and u follow and see where she is going and when there is less ppl there u go and say hello and talk. why-less embrassing.

if the sercurity guard catch me doing this like following girls and he report to police can i go to jail. what will happen.

so how do you pick up girls in random places without being stalkerish and making the girl feel uncomfortable

and the black sercuity guard accused me of stealing stuff in the library -damnnittt. why would i steal library book you dumbo. he said"hey is everything all right, everytime i turn around you turn around" -stupid. i think maybe some girl i chatted up with or eyeing reported me to sercirty and the sercuirty guard was following me and checking me out to see if i am following and talking to these girls

 

[Furyguy]

You're only a stalker if she's not attracted.

My advice, make your intentions blatant and act like the most comfortable guy in the world so you don't look furtive and hesitant.

 

[sharkbeat]

The more doubts you have while approaching and talking to her, the more "stalkerish" you'd become.

 

[mrRuckus]

You're not stalkerish.

Get that silly notion of your head. There is nothing wrong with talking to strangers in public. Change your mindset.

 

[Allurre]

It's very simple.

Before approaching her, see what she's doing. Make observation of her surrounding. If she's reading a book, then step up to her and ask, "Hey, I was just looking around for a good read, how's the book your holding?"

From there.. just expand on what the books about.. however, what you want to do is keep it short with the book talk, and get to exchanging details about each other.

Simple.