How do you not give a ****???

[CapedCrusader08]

I am talkling about women and sex. I read here,http://www.nomarriage.com/worthless.html

and it says to not give a ****,but it is hard too cause we are conditioned to want,and sometimes so badly. I mean,In many ways,I still have this ideal romantic part of me,something that get's reinforced when I see all the people,some I know,some I don't,together and kissing and all that,and I am alone on the sidelines,trying to contain my jealousy. It seems,and yeah,I am now fully starting to accept this,that things are set up to constantly benefit the woman. Everything from the guy,looks,money,etc. How does one find that balance of normalcy we all want?

 

[mfd1830]

You said it yourself; we're conditioned to think that way. So, by that logic, can't you condition yourself to think a different way?

There are practical steps you can take to do this. It costs nothing and you can effortlessly incorporate them into your everyday life. You just have to be willing. It begins with an open mind and a willingness to believe in things that don't make sense to you now.

Your life sucks. So you have nothing to lose by trying to drastically alter your normal thought processes.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

THIS IS THE BEST ARTICLE I'VE EVER READ!

I read that page first in May of 2007 and that is what tuned me into the Tom Leykis show. If you really do take the advice on that page, you wont give a fvck because you will listen to stories of guys who are in crappy relationships and you will finally feel good about being single.

So listen to his show for an hour or more a day at least, consider it therapy.

I have countless podcasts of him on my web site, but the links are hidden. I'll start you with one but if you want more just ask.

http://www.extremebumming.com/Leykis-2008-08-11_Hr2-AvoidQuicksandFromOthers.mp3
also
http://www.extremebumming.com/Leykis-2008-11-18_Hr1-TypesToAvoidMarrying-NewAt13m

 

[trv26]

Read "The Red Queen" by Matt Ridley or basically any evolutionary psychology books. When you realize than romance is just a way for women to keep you sweet while she is busy acting like a slut behind your back, that should help get rid of a lot of romance from you.

Also on things being easy for women, remember it's only the beautiful women who get everything they want.

And don't forget that they are also guys who have more women after them then they could ever want. Unfortunately you and I are not one of them, so it seems like its the case. Who knows perhaps one day we might be.

Back to your original point keep reading and making an effort with women eventually you'll get there (hopefully).

 

[Junkyard]

Yea leykis is the shyt, used to listen to him in LA. Too bad hes not on the air in ny

 

[Bible_Belt]

I am now fully starting to accept this,that things are set up to constantly benefit the woman. Everything from the guy,looks,money,etc.

It only seems that way. I posted about it here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1468664#post1468664

I can also tell you that after you have had several girlfriends, they all start to seem the same. I have called girls by the wrong name several times. There is no special "soulmate" or one girl just for you, or any of that crap you see in popular culture. Women are usually pretty similar, and there are plenty of them to go around.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I have been trying to condition myself to different way(s). This all started when I was young, I was 16,and it just hit me,my life sucks,I am a loser,etc. It all went downhill. Part of it was cause I had never had sex or a gf,so it really got to me,to the point where I felt I was losing sight of reality. Thing is,this all makes sense to me,I just haven't figured out how to make it work for me. I have a hard time sorting out what is useful to me and what isn't.


So,is it really women's fault? I feel that in todays instant gratification world where you are either up to par with everyone else,a concept I hate,not only cause it's extremely superficial,but cruel as well,then you don't have a chance? Isn't this **** supposed to have ended after high school? I mean,maybe I am a bit emotionally cold when it comes to romance,as in that I never saw it happening for me in any way. I feel like I have been the guy pining for something to happen,and yet nothing does. There are alot of arguments about this.

I don't even necesarily want the most beautiful women,althought it would be nice,it seems even hard for me to try and get average looking girls. Maybe it is some sort of extreme personality problem.

 

[mfd1830]

You can't try to sort out what's useful to you just be reading things and thinking about them. There are hundreds of free articles on this site alone, comprised of different and sometimes even conflicting methods, all with practical steps to follow. You have to try these things in real life and see what works. That's the only way.

Every post you make on here that isn't preceeded by "I tried (???) and (???) happened" is worthless to you and everybody else. Nobody cares about your past and how delicate it made you; every single person in the world has been where you're at. The only difference between you and the guy that has success with girls and life, is that they choose not to wallow in their past failures.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

Has every person been there? Even the ones who like had been getting girls since they were young? Or am I just missing some part of me? That's just it,I haven't even really gone out,tried,failed,and repeated. Something,some anger,is causing a conflict,a conflict with reality of sorts. Delicate? As in sensitive? That's what I mean,most guys,by my age at least,seems have already had enough experience with women,that they are desensitized enough to not give a ****. I feel I am not. That's all I can think about. I know it sounds stupid,essentially,holding yourself up to others,but I can't help it.