How do you make her undestand you don't want an exclusive relationship ?

[Pathetik]

Hi guys !
How do you make her undestand you don't want an exclusive relationship ?

My question is simple but I can't find the answer since I've never had this kind of relationship.

Of course I could lie to her but I don't really want that...
I don't want to hurt her neither...

So any advice or tips are welcome

Cya guys !

 

[Dole]

Listen Woman, I don't want an exclusive relationship.

Try that and report back.

 

[redspicyflag]

Straight up tell her

 

[KontrollerX]

As you're getting to know a new chick you tell her how you deal with women with as much charm as you can muster and if she possesses any scrap of a decent intelligence level she should discern that this is how you plan to treat her as well.

She will of course try to challenge you over this with a question about how you would be with her and then you politely explain that you are a guy that is all about having fun and dating multiple women and she is welcome to continue dating you and having fun with you and she is free to do the same with other guy's.

If she doesn't accept the arrangement you move on to the next one.

To change your way of operating for fear of rejection of yourself and the way you do things is you entering into the woman's reality which is something no guy should ever do because 1. you don't want to be locked down and not date other women and 2. you have to be who you are most comfortable being to be truly happy in life anyway.

Alternatively you could get something going with a chick and never say that you ever wanted to be exclusive with her so if she finds out you've been with another chick or chicks she has no real valid complaint against you.

The relationship with her may end for good there and then but its very doubtful in this day and age as women get hot for guy's who treat them like trash by being uncomitted and unable to be tied down and don't be direct with them about their intentions.

For example just read that one Sunny chick's posts on this board who keeps getting used and tossed by her scumbag ex and keeps going back to him and keeps obsessing over him.

Why does she do this?

Because he can't be tied down, he is unreliable, her looks, her presence and all that she is, is not enough to keep him from cheating on her with other chick's.

This fvcks with certain women's view of themselves and because of that they keep trying to win that guy and make that scumbag guy totally devoted to them so they can reclaim their lost ego validation.

What you want to be is that scumbag who women are totally hung up on.

 

[Dole]

:crackup:
Hilarious how you always use Sunny D's posts as an example of how scumbags treat girls. Poor woman lol.

 

[Pathetik]

Ok, thanks guys for your replies.
Especially KontrollerX for your long and detailed post.

I think I'm not ready to tell a girl straight up I don't want an exclusive relationship. I've got a lack of self confidense (I'm working hard on it :cheer: ) so it will be very hard for me to say that :nervous:

I'm gonna try to be a nice scumbag D) and I'll see what will happen

Thanks again, and I'm gonna check the post you mentioned.



EDIT:

Ohhhh fvck ! Is this possible ??!!

I know what you meant KontrollerX and Dole :crazy: :crackup:
Here is another hint for every man who are still beeing nice...

I'm kinda fed up with girls by the way... ^^ :moon:

 

[My Name is Nobody]

:crackup:
Hilarious how you always use Sunny D's posts as an example of how scumbags treat girls. Poor woman lol.

It's so true. I remember when Sosuave was having the war with Lovecrap, all the women from over there decided to come here and say none of the material on sosuave really works.

So what did we do? We went over to Lovecrap and found threads these same women made about being obsessed over jerks that treat them like crap.

It was funny as hell.

 

[Pathetik]

It's so true. I remember when Sosuave was having the war with Lovecrap, all the women from over there decided to come here and say none of the material on sosuave really works.

So what did we do? We went over to Lovecrap and found threads these same women made about being obsessed over jerks that treat them like crap.

It was funny as hell.

:crackup:

I can imagine that My Name is Nobody ^^
That's so fvcking horrible to see how far I was from reality ...
How is this possible...
How can we, men, be lying to ourselves and keep going such dumbass flowers: )

I'm gonna kill the AFC who is within me... I swear it ! :trouble: :kick:

 

[DonGorgon]

Tell her straight up... but to keep her Fing you you have to make her think she might get what she wants

 

[frisco]

simple, wait till she ask the question (what are we?) make sure shes serious thought like you just ****ed and she ask you this or you ignore her and she brings it up. this is when its time for you to shape the relationship if you want a non exclusive relationship, just say, Look you are special too me, I wouldn't be here if you wernt special too me, all i know is i want you in mylife, and i want to see you again- and it better be soon, because we have fun together and you help me relax. I can be myself with you our chemistry is amazing. and thats all i want from you right now. Im not going to tell you what i think you wanna hear, Im just telling you my feelings.

 

[n00bPimp]

Mention how you hold a higher regard for one night stands than for LTRs. She will understand.

 

[penkitten]

"i am going through a me phase right now"

"i like a variety"