How do you make her to like you?

[mustfirstregister]

Hey, how do you make the target to like you?
I approach a lot but they seem not to like me.

What do you say to your targets to make her like you?

 

[Acq]

show her your tool, if she likes it, she will like you as a whole.

 

[PapiChulo]

lol at the tool there.

Seriously, the question is worded incorrectly ^^^. You cant make her like you right of the bat. Its either she is physically attracted to you or not: the screen or the barrier or whatever you call it, the rest is how you carry yourself, and your personality to boot .


If you are OK looking, clean, sober, non-creepy type - she already doesn't mind approaching her.

 

[everywomanshero]

You don't try to make the woman like you per say. There are millions of women in the world. Every college, bar, bookstore, apartment building, mall food court, etc. has fun & available women in it. What's the point in trying to "make" women like you while ignoring the thousands in your city that already want someone just like you?

Tell them about yourself and let them make whatever decision they happen to come to. You can put your best foot forward of course and show her you're interested in her, but anything more than that is a waste of energy and often counter-productive.

 

[Thundernuts]

I dunno, just the fact that you are asking a question as broad as this...its kind of difficult. You got remember women get approached all the time, you have to carry yourself better and show this woman you are something worth putting time into. Don't just go up and start telling her your life plans, you will just come off as desperate.

I dunno, i don't even know where to begin with this one.

 

[everywomanshero]

Not to pick on anyone but two of the worst beliefs in the world lie one post above me.

1) Women get approached all the time. In the context of bars or oggling men (who at most do a cat call from a moving vehicle), yes, women get approached by slobbering idiots there quite often. However, the reality is that many women do not enjoy hanging out in bars and do not do so. Many women who do go to bars go with their college or professional friends to lower key places where approaches are less common. The sad truth is so many women are desperate to meet even a halfway suitable mate. They have careers, houses, cars, everything but the man at their side. The most desperate guys simply do not know enough women to realize this and thus have a skewed version of reality where they believe these are the problems of men only, when in reality women have it about as bad.

2) You have to be "better" than the imaginary mass of men who approach the woman daily. O boy, this one really sets a guy up for failure. Now, you're likely to start trying all sorts of pickup advice, defensive behaviors, and the fake personality routine. All of this stems from a paranoia that women are a scarce resource and that you have to do something dramatic in order to be at head of the queue. Fact is women are very plentiful resource and we can afford to be a little choosey ourselves.

In my mind "the game" for the average joe is getting closer to seeing reality. The desperate guys almost always have a version of reality where women are all powerful and have few, if any, of the problems men have. The reality however is quite different. Knowing this can really help a guy hone in on his target audience.

 

[kingsam]

1) Women get approached all the time. In the context of bars or oggling men (who at most do a cat call from a moving vehicle), yes, women get approached by slobbering idiots there quite often. However, the reality is that many women do not enjoy hanging out in bars and do not do so. Many women who do go to bars go with their college or professional friends to lower key places where approaches are less common. The sad truth is so many women are desperate to meet even a halfway suitable mate. They have careers, houses, cars, everything but the man at their side. The most desperate guys simply do not know enough women to realize this and thus have a skewed version of reality where they believe these are the problems of men only, when in reality women have it about as bad.

yes,
women are not some alien higher speicies, they do not need to be put on a pedestal...just being confident, leading, proactive, self assured..etc... puts you ahead of 99% of the guys out there

2) You have to be "better" than the imaginary mass of men who approach the woman daily. O boy, this one really sets a guy up for failure. Now, you're likely to start trying all sorts of pickup advice, defensive behaviors, and the fake personality routine. All of this stems from a paranoia that women are a scarce resource and that you have to do something dramatic in order to be at head of the queue. Fact is women are very plentiful resource and we can afford to be a little choosey ourselves.

i went to the RSD hot seat (WELL WORTH THE $) with infield videos (like 6-7 hours worth) of tyler, brad, alexander, ryan and jeffy,
the most obvious thing that i saw was how EASY it was, now they all have sick game, but they wernt doing anything special at all...

In my mind "the game" for the average joe is getting closer to seeing reality. The desperate guys almost always have a version of reality where women are all powerful and have few, if any, of the problems men have. an excuse! The reality however is quite different. Knowing this can really help a guy hone in on his target audience.

 

[zekko]

i went to the RSD hot seat (WELL WORTH THE $) with infield videos (like 6-7 hours worth) of tyler, brad, alexander, ryan and jeffy,
the most obvious thing that i saw was how EASY it was, now they all have sick game, but they wernt doing anything special at all...

I'd love to see some RSD infield videos. Any chance you could describe a few approaches from memory?

As for their not doing anything special, I think you've said Tyler was incredibly smooth and dialed in with his kino (apologies if that wasnt' you).
But I think I know what you mean. If you're comfortable with yourself, and comfortable with women, and comfortable in your environment, you're likely to have success just chilling.

The only problem with infield videos is do they show the rejections too? Those might be just as revealing as the successes.

 

[sux2bu]

Hey, how do you make the target to like you?
I approach a lot but they seem not to like me.

What do you say to your targets to make her like you?

Sadly, the girl/woman holds the cards at first. She decides within 1 second of looking at you. If you get a sneer and a "closed-eye" lookaway. That means she wouldn't **** you if you had a 10" **** and a million dollars. But, if she looks at you, and as you pass, you catch her looking back. That's a sign of interest to some degree. They last thing a girl wants is for a guy to know that she's interested in them.

 

[PapiChulo]

But, if she looks at you, and as you pass, you catch her looking back. That's a sign of interest to some degree. They last thing a girl wants is for a guy to know that she's interested in them.

...and the hotter the woman, the less of interest signs you will get.

Pull one on a fatty and she will smile and flirt! while the hotty....just minds her business. The truth is that all women are the attracted to the same beauty standards regardless of their own looks, age, etc.

 

[J. Darko]

Oh come on men...


You

Can't

Get

A

Woman

To

Like

You


No you can't.

Rule 1: you can't get a woman to like you. In case somebody claims it is possible, or even in the case that you think you got her to like you, see rule number 1.

Impossible.
Ce n'est pas possible.
Onmogelijk.

 

[justkyle]

bull face lie darko.... mad bull face lie. you CAN make anyone like you. ANYONE. just gotta find the key.

 

[PlayCold]

Surely you can!! But the problem is to do so you need to be a lot with her and most times you won't get the chance because she is blocking the chances.

1 year ago I was working in France at a restaurant for 2 months. There was a girl (HB9) working with me who also came from The Netherlands (just as me) and she wasn't attracted to me at all (she told me later).
But after 1 month of being around her the whole time (she didn't have a choice didn't she?) and showing her how I am she fell massively in love with me even while she had a boyfriend back home. So for the remaining month we had lots of sex and lots of fun. After that she still was in love with me but I told her I didn't want to go further.

Anyway to get to the point.
It sure is possible but you probably never get a chance to change her mind about it because when she already put you in her "list of dislikes" she will do anything to not let you show her how fun you are.



It's like listening to a different music style.
For example:

I love deep/beach house music. So when someone lets me hear a techno song I already have this prejudgement that I won't like the music because I'm used to listening to my house music.

But if I listen to techno everyday (even when I hate it) I get so used to it and in the end I will probably like it even more then my beloved house music.

Impossible.
Ce n'est pas possible.
Onmogelijk.

Possible.
Ce possible.
Zeker wel mogelijk.

 

[kingsam]

But if I listen to techno everyday (even when I hate it) I get so used to it and in the end I will probably like it even more then my beloved house music.

a bit of Showtek or Outblast never hurt anyone

 

[Groovy]

Just be yourself and don't worry if people like you or not.

Why do you want to make her like you? Seeking approval? Stop it!

 

[loveshogun]

All true, but...

Surely you can!! But the problem is to do so you need to be a lot with her and most times you won't get the chance because she is blocking the chances.

Yes, anything is possible. Not always plausible, though. And even before talking about plausibility, we have to consider whether she's worth it.

Assuming you have great game, you can change a girl's mind.

Now, consider the fact that the OP is asking for advice about this on SS. This means that even when giving him the benefit of the doubt, he has beginner's level game.

In the same way we could win the lottery, the OP (no offense) could get this girl to change her mind about him with minimal effort.

More likely, we won't win the lottery, and this girl won't spontaneously change her mind.

The practical solution would be to become the best version of yourself (and show it every day) so that you become the guy that no sane girl would pass on you without at least considering a few dates.

 

[Coffeebazooka]

Slap her in the face and call her a *****, cause that is what she is and she will be happy that someone caught on to the truth.

 

[PlayCold]

Yes, anything is possible. Not always plausible, though. And even before talking about plausibility, we have to consider whether she's worth it.

Assuming you have great game, you can change a girl's mind.

Now, consider the fact that the OP is asking for advice about this on SS. This means that even when giving him the benefit of the doubt, he has beginner's level game.

In the same way we could win the lottery, the OP (no offense) could get this girl to change her mind about him with minimal effort.

More likely, we won't win the lottery, and this girl won't spontaneously change her mind.

The practical solution would be to become the best version of yourself (and show it every day) so that you become the guy that no sane girl would pass on you without at least considering a few dates.

I understand what your saying and yes he won't probably succeed. But it is possible to achieve IF known how to work with it.

 

[PlayCold]

a bit of Showtek or Outblast never hurt anyone

^_^

Btw it was just an example I do love some heavy techno tunes