I need to make friends that would be willing to go clubbing every week, since I don't want to go by myself. None of the people I chill with right now would be willing too. So how do I make friends who would be willing to do this, I go to a commuter school that has a rez, but it seems most ppl already have their own crew so how do I do this? How would you go about it if you had to?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you make friends that would be willing to go clubbing?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Whenever you want something from other people, you have to have something to offer and you want other people to know about this without you telling them (bragging). It's the core principle in the definition of popularity.
So, if you want some new buddies to go clubbing with you, you have to give the impression that if these guys go with you that it will benefit them somehow.
So, do you have something that they dont? Or are you the one just tagging along?
So, if you want some new buddies to go clubbing with you, you have to give the impression that if these guys go with you that it will benefit them somehow.
So, do you have something that they dont? Or are you the one just tagging along?
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by going to clubs and making friends lol...
obviously if they're there, they're club goers. So that would b the best answer imo.
obviously if they're there, they're club goers. So that would b the best answer imo.
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double post.
I'm not really sure what you mean. Like I just need to go clubbing to try and pickup in the club scene or whatever, but noone I hang around with goes clubbing really so I'm wondering how I would go about making friends with guys who do go clubbing and then being able to go.Jackman said:Whenever you want something from other people, you have to have something to offer and you want other people to know about this without you telling them (bragging). It's the core principle in the definition of popularity.
So, if you want some new buddies to go clubbing with you, you have to give the impression that if these guys go with you that it will benefit them somehow.
So, do you have something that they dont? Or are you the one just tagging along?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
but wouldn't that mean I'd have to go alone? Also do people even actually usually make friends at clubs? Like if a guy goes to a club isn't he probably going just to pickup or have fun or whatever, but probably not looking to make new guy friends he would hang out with?BxPrince24 said:by going to clubs and making friends lol...
obviously if they're there, they're club goers. So that would b the best answer imo.
Basically, what you're in the market for is a guy or maybe a group of guys that club for women, and know at least a little bit about what they are doing, to take you in to thier circle. Right? You want to hang with the type of guys that will play you up and you play them up in the common goal to get some ass, I assume. I also assume you don't want to hang with someone who has no clue how to act around women.BlahUgh said:I'm not really sure what you mean. Like I just need to go clubbing to try and pickup in the club scene or whatever, but noone I hang around with goes clubbing really so I'm wondering how I would go about making friends with guys who do go clubbing and then being able to go.
If this is what you want, then you have to show competence in that area. You have to let guys know you can be a decent wingman and not just a tag along who needs motivation to talk to a woman. The best way to do this is to talk to people as you normally would in making friends and eventually slip into talking about women without bragging or whining. If you seem knowledgeable, it will be assumed you can be a decent wingman, and the odds of you being invited out or being able to invite to club will be greater.