how do you make friends if you go to a new city?

[Passion]

I'm only going to be taking 1 night class in september and for the rest of summer I'm just working.

 

[WC2]

Clubs, malls, SCHOOL, the end is listless. Making friends in a new area should be by far the easiest thing to do. Just imagine how many others are out there pondering your very question. Be a leader, and lead yourself into meeting new people. The only way to do it is to force yourself to get out there. No one here can give you any magic advice.. it all lies in you.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

start with guy friends u have stuff in common with, and then naturally u will get along with their friends and eventually u will be part of a circle of friends..

school is an awesome way too.. just be social and approachable and more than anything friendly and confident..

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

That one class you're taking is still an opportunity. Also try some bars. I'm going to school this fall, taking many classes, mostly hard science courses, and its pretty hard to socialize in that kind of setting. Its much easier to socialize in say, a speech class, than a physics class.

 

[Delta]

work is an opportunity. as is the class.

despite the easy breezy advice people throw around, it is indeed difficult to meet people and "make friends" (for god's sakes) in this modern world.

clubs (special interest, not night) and community events are a good way to meet people.

in the beginning, i would suggest simply trying to MEET as many people as possible... you can't really plan on making friends... that either happens or it doesn't. but meet lots of people and that can develop into becoming an acquaintance and that may move to being friends.

also, taking an acting class or a stand up comedy class (they have em!) or something like that or a bunch of special interest classes at the local community college may be a good way to meet people too.

luck.

delta

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

in the beginning, i would suggest simply trying to MEET as many people as possible... you can't really plan on making friends... that either happens or it doesn't. but meet lots of people and that can develop into becoming an acquaintance and that may move to being friends.

delta

Usually when I go on a people-meeting spree I come off as being pretty desperate and needy. I mean, if meeting people is the answer, why not just work at some cash register??

 

[typical]

No dont go out to "make friends" no one has ever been able to do that, you go out and do things you like and you will then bump into people who share similar tastes.

Think about it how the hell did you get you first best friend ..... mine was peeing in the sandox at age 8 or somthing like that and another kid came and joined in, our folks found out and gave us hell, we were best mates for 10 years, till he left for aussieland.

 

[Delta]

re: meeting people...

can't force it. that's the key. and if there is a taint of desperation, that has to be purged.

i know, it's tough. if you don't know how to not come off as desperate, how do you not come off as desperate. perhaps others will help elaborate.

delta