"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do YOU maintain eye contact

dudewut

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For some reason that I cannot fathom I cant maintain eye contact, I can look at the person's eyes for 5 seconds or so but then I have to look around or look at his/her article of clothing. I dont think I am entirely bad looking but whenever some girl in the bus/subway will look at me and smile I dont know where to look/what to do, hell I have even been asked out a couple of times before, and guess where I was looking the whole time.....DOWN!

In order for me to maintain eye contact I have to keep telling myself NOT to look around, other people seem to maintain eye contact unconsciously, they sorta just do it, and I cant!


How did you fix your eye contact problem?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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a smile never hurted anyone, just pick an eye and stare at it, I dont see what the problem is
 

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Darth said:
Do pullups. Lots of them.
I can do like, 12 lol but sure I will do more, its back day anyway lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Maintaining eye contact with other men is more important.

If you can't look a man in the eye it means your scared of him. Whenever it happens ask yourself if you are scared of him and get some adrenaline going so you can get some confidence flow and keep eye contact.

After you get used to that its easier with girls.
 

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While in a conversation, just look at her in her eyes. As soon as she stop maintaining eye contact then you can look away. Don't stare, because that will creep her out. Maybe sure you keep it natural. Blink every now and then. And, don't focus too hard on just eye contact. Body language is just as important.
 

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Dont stare for too long in the persons eyes unless you are getting intimate with them. I make the eye contact for a few seconds and then glance at some other part of the face, or look to the side or what not.

Some people try to stare you down, its intimidating and looks like this person wants something from you or is suspicious of something. Good way to make people avoid you. Avoid that, its not like you have to show your alphaness to everybody.


I noticed I establish a deeper eye contact with women that I like, or someone who I trust or am interested in what they are saying. Its natural for the most part. With the rest I force myself to do!


Avoiding eye contact shows distrust, annoyance, disdain, anxiety,not so much as fear.
 

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Avoiding eye contact is symptomatic of a lack of mental and physical strength. If you do basic strength exercises like push-ups and pull-ups you shouldn't have any problem looking people in the eye.

EDIT: It is also important to avoid being self-conscious. If you are trying to calculate the correct percentage of eye contact, you are thinking WAY too hard. I remember reading an article years ago where they gave you exact percentages for how long to look in someone's eyes if they are talking, and a different number for if you're talking. I think that's BS. Be natural.
 

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Just start with Respecting people in General, older folks, babies and kids by maintaining eye contact and accepting them in who they are.

Once you do that then maintaining eye contact with a girl should be an after thought.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I got into a staring contest with a baby today and I lost.
 

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHKH7a-FqlE
There you go. Watch and learn. Eye contact at its finest.

If you still are a bit shy may I suggest that you wear dark shades. That way you can just stare at tits all day long and chicks will think you are making eye contact with them.

Personally, I don't give a damn. I am such a sexual being that I have no problem with chicks knowing that I am looking their womanly parts over. It is how I operate. Turns some off and turns some on. Definitely eliminates the dreaded Friendzone curse.
 

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Every time two people meet, subconsciously they are both checking to see who is in charge.

Whoever shakes hands the best or holds eye contact the longest is in charge.

Just practice and you'll be surprised by the results.

And in case you didn't know it, women are attracted by a guy who is in control, not some wvssy boy who always looks down.

If you have to, look at a spot on their forehead in between their eyes to start. They won't even know the difference until you are up close.
 

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Just start with Respecting people in General, older folks, babies and kids by maintaining eye contact and accepting them in who they are.
What does that even mean? Respecting people and accepting people for what they are = eye contact?

Sounds like vague empty waffle to me.

PapiChulo said:
Avoiding eye contact shows distrust, annoyance, disdain, anxiety,not so much as fear.
Well that is just wrong. What on earth makes you say that? You look away from someone you distrust or are annoyed at?

You definitely stare them down and hold focus unless you are also intimidated. A salesman who you think is lying to you, you probably look even harder to detect it.

Eye contact is intimidation linked 99% of the time.


Only thing worst than vague empty waffle is false information.
 

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for men, eye contact usually implies direct competition or trying to court a women. This is why men communicate so well in car rides because they don't have to look at eachother.

eye contact has always been hard for me. I just pick a point past someone and look at it. On the other hand, women have told me my eye contact is good w/ them. So who knows?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is not false information. Eye contact is not just about intimidation. People often break eye contact because they are: bored, disinterested, annoyed, contemptuous, or spot someone else they are more interested in talking to.

Ease said:
What does that even mean? Respecting people and accepting people for what they are = eye contact?

Sounds like vague empty waffle to me.



Well that is just wrong. What on earth makes you say that? You look away from someone you distrust or are annoyed at?

You definitely stare them down and hold focus unless you are also intimidated. A salesman who you think is lying to you, you probably look even harder to detect it.

Eye contact is intimidation linked 99% of the time.


Only thing worst than vague empty waffle is false information.
 

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when initiating eye contact for intimacy its important to focus on the left eye.

It's also important to look down slowly from the left eye to her nose to her lips then back to the left eye.

It has to do with the left eye's connection with the area of the brain stimulated by sexual interest.

works for me!
 

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I just do it man.. Maybe I just don't think about it as much as most people, but I don't get uncomfortable giving eye contact. One of the more useful things my old man taught me when I was younger was to always maintain eye contact in conversation with anyone.
 

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eye contact should never be underestimated, its very powerful and it is an instant giveaway if you have any interest from a woman, that second look speaks volumes, It may not get you into her bed but its a green light to approach.
wherever possble its should be accompanied by smiling eyes, not a wide mouthed grin, be friendly, confident, it takes practice but its well worth getting to grips with, its a very important tool.
 

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davewe said:
This is not false information. Eye contact is not just about intimidation. People often break eye contact because they are: bored, disinterested, annoyed, contemptuous, or spot someone else they are more interested in talking to.
^^

Yep, this is exactly what I'm talking about. If your level of interest is high by having an attitude of genuine curiosity for each individual.

Finding out what makes this person interesting then when you do meet someone you do like, then your interest level should skyrocket.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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