How do you LJBF a woman?

[SecondHalf]

I'm not very good at rejecting people.
Especially when they're very nice.
Regardless, I need to do this and I'm not very experienced at it with this particular type of woman (nice, vulnerable, and completely into me).

I'm thinking of using the ...
"We're very different you and I. I think for the long term, we'd make better friends than a couple. I just don't see this working out long term given our very different life styles.".

I could be a jerk, however, this woman has an invite list to functions and parties that are worth staying on. And ... she's nice, vulnerable ...

My question to the much more experienced people at this ...
How do you DJ'ers distance yourself without destroying the other?

Thanks in advance,

SH

 

[betheman]

just keep it going until or unless she pushes for more, dont make any promses

 

[SecondHalf]

just keep it going until or unless she pushes for more, dont make any promses

It's come to that, hence why I pose the question.
In this case, it's not a commitment thing (I think she already assumes it), but she wants to travel with me, take up key days (birthdays / holidays) etc.

I'm just not that into her for that type of investment and I see the poor woman hurting. I'll never supplicate/settle again, so ... looking for advice to end it gently.

SH

 

[Albatross953]

Well just be honest. Her hurt is her thing to deal with. Would you rather drag her into the whole oneitis thing? See all the guys hurting on this site? They'd be better off if the girl was honest...up front.

 

[Warrior74]

Just tell her. "You're like a little sister to me and I love that about you, I'm so glad we're friends. I feel like I can talk to you about anything. So I met this girl the other day, what does it mean when women say...." :crackup:

 

[bish0p]

Just tell her. "You're like a little sister to me and I love that about you, I'm so glad we're friends. I feel like I can talk to you about anything. So I met this girl the other day, what does it mean when women say...." :crackup:

lol...that"s wrong, man.

 

[SecondHalf]

Just tell her. "You're like a little sister to me and I love that about you, I'm so glad we're friends. I feel like I can talk to you about anything. So I met this girl the other day, what does it mean when women say...." :crackup:

Up until "So I met this girl" ... I kinda like it.

I'm just going to point out the obvious (less a couple ego deflating points).
Radically different paths (her family spent their summers on their ocean yacht, mine in a camper converted from a 1950 city bus)...
Different tastes.
Different stages in post marriage recovery (she still has the rinse and repeat mentality).

I'll have to get it done this weekend.

SH

 

[Mr.Positive]

Just tell her. "You're like a little sister to me and I love that about you, I'm so glad we're friends. I feel like I can talk to you about anything. So I met this girl the other day, what does it mean when women say...." :crackup:

This actually really works, just don't start talking about other gals. Leave that part out.

What I did, was tell her she was the "sister I never had". The sister strategy tells them you really care for them, but not in a romantic way. Trust me, they get it.

She was mad at me for one day, then she was over it. We are still friends today even though she's married now.

 

[SecondHalf]

Wanted to keep on the party list.
I suppose she'll be bummed any way I deliver it.

Feck it!

"I like you, I'm just not in like with you".

Maybe that will be fun!

SH

 

[muscleman]

You can drop hints, like not agreeing to hang out with her 1 on 1, but still keep her around as a friend. If she presses, just tell her 'I'm not really looking for a relationship, and besides you're a nice girl and I'm kind of a jerk'. Make yourself out to look 'bad', she can't argue with that! She'll still like you of course, but logically you let her know so you're off the hook. That's actually one of the few occasions when men and women can be friends - when a girl likes a guy, he doesn't like her, but because women don't need sex as much (much less testosterone), they'll play along typically. Eventually she may fade away if you keep it up long enough. If you really want to be nice though, set her up with someone else.

 

[Boilermaker]

I love telling them what Warrior said.

Usually they are smarter than the average AFC; and the ones who really want more immediately go

"I am not your friend"

this happened to me more than once.

But boy, do I love LJBF'ing unattractive, chubby, stupid, self-entitled females. It feels gooood.

 

[jonhaul]

I'm thinking of using the ...
"We're very different you and I. I think for the long term, we'd make better friends than a couple. I just don't see this working out long term given our very different life styles."

SH

Men use this line too? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=199015 it was used on me too in a text though... OUCH!

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Second Half,
So whose problem is this?....Not yours anywise...Assuming she is reasonable in the sack,slide out of it gradually,aiming at limiting her contact time to max three times a week,meanwhile (Lets put the CD on) Spin Plates...Play the White Knight,and you will be the loser!

 

[SecondHalf]

The deed is done.
She is a woman scored.
Wanted to stay on the party list.
Maybe she'll put me back on it in time.

White Knight?
Those days are gone.
Sadly what went with them was a lot of the attraction towards relationships.
Not really getting really excited about any of them anymore.

She was good in the sack, but ... annoying sometimes.
Don't like snobs.

Used the "too different" approach.
I think the expectation was that I'd change so we're no longer different lol.

Done ... and thanks!

SH

 

[kimberleah]

I could be a jerk, however, this woman has an invite list to functions and parties that are worth staying on. And ... she's nice, vulnerable ...

My question to the much more experienced people at this ...
How do you DJ'ers distance yourself without destroying the other?

Thanks in advance,

SH

Well you ARE a jerk. You're using her and if a woman did this to you youd flip a **** and be on here degrading her. So you can dish it out but you cant take it?

Reject her and get it over with. That is- if you have any compassion within your soul (doubtful...since all the men that come to this site are apes and not human beings)

 

[Epimanes]

...since all the men that come to this site are apes and not human beings)

I disagree! ...

 

[nismo-4]

The answer is simple. Just do it! The same way men get rejected.

The funny thing is that every time 1 person rejects a woman, she won't be hurt because she has tens of hundreds of guys waiting for the chance to get with her and accept her.