How do you let her know,without letting her know.

[toasttopper1879]

I reckon I've found a wee dilema within myself and I just cant find an answer to it.
The general rule when in the early stages of any up and coming relationship is not to let the girl see that you like her too much.Act a bit disinterested whatever.However I'm striking out by giving off the impression that I'm never going to be interested and its costing me at times.Girls are finding me so aloof and out of reach that they assume I'm not worth chasing.They class me as unobtainable.
So where do I draw the line.When and how do I admit to the girl I'm maybe slightly interested.All the flirting,kino and general body language I show seems to make no difference.I just come off as a fun flirt who cant be had.

 

[flexion_]

No one said don't act interested. Just don't verbalize that you are interested.

 

[Phyzzle]

Act a bit disinterested

No. Don't act disinterested at all.

That's your problem.

Act like you are interested? Yes!

Say "I am interested"? No!

See the difference?

 

[Eccentric]

Girls pick up on stuff pretty easily.

Tone of your voice, how you hold/touch her if cuddling, eye contact, how sensual you are with her.

She knows if you like her or not. Trust me, they all do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

No. Don't act disinterested at all.

That's your problem.

Act like you are interested? Yes!

Say "I am interested"? No!

See the difference?

Spot on, but you may need to give an example.

 

[Local Celebrity]

Here's the thing, you don't TELL her that your interested, common mistake, and you can't act disinterested all the time, you have to give her common signs of your interest, when she does something you like.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

All things are possible just don't yell out " you are my everything and I want to give you a baby."

 

[Bvbidd]

Girls pick up on stuff pretty easily.

Tone of your voice, how you hold/touch her if cuddling, eye contact, how sensual you are with her.

She knows if you like her or not. Trust me, they all do.

I'm with this guy.

They know you like them. Just make a fvcking move and stop trying to act disinterested they probally are laughing at you for it.

Do not just tell them.. that's just weak and they'll just think of you as a chump. just invite them on a date or make a move when your alone or something.

 

[JJMcLure]

You quit fvcking around and ask her out. That is your job as the MAN. Flirting is for chicks. Make your move. That is how you let her know you like her. Don't expect to flirt your way to a perfect situation where you are guaranteed you know she will say yes. You have to take some risk (of rejection), it's part of the game.

And don't go too far with acting aloof. You can act interested in a chick, just not enamoured with her. You can like chicks so long as you're not set on one "special chick" (i.e. oneitis). People like people who like them.