RawkinKaoticStyle
Senior Don Juan
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How Do you LET GO !?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mateo_g
Don Juan
By easing my grip.
squirrels
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Stop asking us for the answers.
(that's an answer to your question, not a rebuke
and no, it isn't easy...if it was *I* would've done it by now)
(that's an answer to your question, not a rebuke
and no, it isn't easy...if it was *I* would've done it by now)Pepe Le Pew
Don Juan
Turn around, walk away, don't look back.
Why, do you want to let go?
Why, do you want to let go?
nuttyaintright
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You fake it, act like you dont care until it becomes a reality.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
On_the_Top
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now is this masturbation or a broad? either way, you just go do something else.
RawkinKaoticStyle
Senior Don Juan
Its weird because the replys seem so easy
ease your grip
turn around , walk away, and dont look back
fake it
stop asking for answers
its like , i say to myself, ok ill do this, EASY SHYT
then its the same cycle, i end up caring?
haha you ever seen thoes dog chains where it lets the dog extend the cord for a certain distance then after awhile it gets to the end of the cord and it stops and jerks the dog, it kinda feels like that.
ease your grip
turn around , walk away, and dont look back
fake it
stop asking for answers
its like , i say to myself, ok ill do this, EASY SHYT
then its the same cycle, i end up caring?
haha you ever seen thoes dog chains where it lets the dog extend the cord for a certain distance then after awhile it gets to the end of the cord and it stops and jerks the dog, it kinda feels like that.
RawkinKaoticStyle
Senior Don Juan
hahahah its masterbation
How do you let go. The hardest way is to be objective and reach the conclusion that it would not have worked and she lacked certain qualties and admitting to your self that she is not the one for you and there is nothing there. Obiviously this stings a little hence and requires you to dettach yourself.
The simpliest way is to look at other women and see them sexually, your new desires will burn out the old.
-Grey Fox
The simpliest way is to look at other women and see them sexually, your new desires will burn out the old.
-Grey Fox
I would have to agree with Grey on this one. New pu$$ seems to make the old flame look a little dimmer. Even if you don't totally forget about her, it will take the pain and eagerness out of you.
I think after a break up or losing a girl somehow, your first instinct is you will never find another like her. And obviously when you start F-ing again you get rid of some of that oneitisness and feel better and more confident about your abilities to start the process again.
I think after a break up or losing a girl somehow, your first instinct is you will never find another like her. And obviously when you start F-ing again you get rid of some of that oneitisness and feel better and more confident about your abilities to start the process again.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RawkinKaoticStyle
Senior Don Juan
NO NO guys, im not talking about chicks directly, im just talking about life.
nobody could put it better than nutty: you have to fake it until it becomes reality. A lotta ppl (especially girls) might tell u not to do that cause u have to be "honest" with yourself and u cant "repress" your feelings otherwise theyll only come back stronger...blablabla...but fact is that it works and nothing comes back stronger or whateva. Think about every oneitis uve had.
Ohh and by the way those ppl also say you have to "be yourself"
Ohh and by the way those ppl also say you have to "be yourself"
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
-stop caring
-immerse yourself in your fav. hobbies
Make a commitment and stick to it(I.e. for a new year's resolution instead of saying "I will approach 8 girls a month," say "I will approach 2 girls a week" When you make your goal easier to attain you are more likely to reach it and stick to it.
-take time away from all the stresses in your life, and things you don't need (tv, i-net)
Right now the one relatable thing I remember is in Fight Club is the car scene where TD is telling Norton to "just let go" of the steering wheel, and metaphorically saying let life take you on a ride instead of trying to control everything. Of course I could be reading too much into this, lol.
-immerse yourself in your fav. hobbies
Make a commitment and stick to it(I.e. for a new year's resolution instead of saying "I will approach 8 girls a month," say "I will approach 2 girls a week" When you make your goal easier to attain you are more likely to reach it and stick to it.
-take time away from all the stresses in your life, and things you don't need (tv, i-net)
Right now the one relatable thing I remember is in Fight Club is the car scene where TD is telling Norton to "just let go" of the steering wheel, and metaphorically saying let life take you on a ride instead of trying to control everything. Of course I could be reading too much into this, lol.
RawkinKaoticStyle
Senior Don Juan
Microphone Fiend i understand, you put it in the terms of amovie i really like lol. Im finding out that the voice inside my head doesent get me anywhere man, It will be like " ok man your going to change " or " Your going to do some running today " then i end up not doing it, then i feel bad because i dident meet up to that goal i set for myself. Or maybe its not the voice that doesent get me anywhere maybe its just me that doesent follow it, but anyway. Im taking your advice, thanx
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
What you are talking about is guilt.
You feel guilty for not going running - when you know that inorder to achieve a goal, to lose weight say, that you should go out and run.
You see, if you want something bad enough - you will do whatever it takes. That a cliche I know, but it's true.
Some people get into that routine. they resist change. They make excuses.....
The question is, why don't you want to go running? - or why didn't you do something else instead of going running? perhaps to the gym, or perhaps just walking.
Also, you need to realise, that beating yourself up about these things is also not the answer.
What I've found is a good method of overcomming some of these things, is to right donw a list of goals, short, medium and long term. Then you need to list the steps that you need to take to get to you goals. Keep the list handy, read it, reaffirm what you need to do - and make sure you follow you.
You feel guilty for not going running - when you know that inorder to achieve a goal, to lose weight say, that you should go out and run.
You see, if you want something bad enough - you will do whatever it takes. That a cliche I know, but it's true.
Some people get into that routine. they resist change. They make excuses.....
The question is, why don't you want to go running? - or why didn't you do something else instead of going running? perhaps to the gym, or perhaps just walking.
Also, you need to realise, that beating yourself up about these things is also not the answer.
What I've found is a good method of overcomming some of these things, is to right donw a list of goals, short, medium and long term. Then you need to list the steps that you need to take to get to you goals. Keep the list handy, read it, reaffirm what you need to do - and make sure you follow you.
Player_Supreme
Banned
The same way you would with any bad habit. Replace it with a good one.
Date lots of women to keep you occupied as you heal and develop new goals and habits.
Date lots of women to keep you occupied as you heal and develop new goals and habits.