"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Heres a question for you. It hindered my performance on friday night when out.

How do you know if a girl who is macking with another bloke is her BF or not. On friday night (as you will see in my FR) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104328 i had the problem that when i was grinding HBs. They had random blokes come up to them and do things in charcter of a BF. However they didnt leave with these blokes.....one of them even left alone!!!

Is there any sure way to know if a girl has a BF without asking her?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tomatoes said:
Is there any sure way to know if a girl has a BF without asking her?
I fail to see how finding out the answer helps your game.

Don't ask or attempt to find out. If she flirts with you then don't worry about who she might be seeing because this is between you and her and not him and her.

Remember that there are women out there who do have boyfriend's and they end up cheating on them without telling neither her boyfriend she cheated or telling the guy she cheated with that she does have a boyfriend. Its a dog eat dog out there so its best to be the dog that eats cat.

DJD
 

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I guess its hard to explain without seeing my FR. Im not a big lad.....a lover not a fighter....i got no problem gaming a girl with a BF but if hes there.....**** that.....dog it dog.....BF eats Tomatoes....
 

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Tomatoes said:
I guess its hard to explain without seeing my FR. Im not a big lad.....a lover not a fighter....i got no problem gaming a girl with a BF but if hes there.....**** that.....dog it dog.....BF eats Tomatoes....
If he is there then you game her male companion as well. Let me explain this.

The problem with your mindset is that as soon as you see a guy there with a chick you automatically think " oh sh1t that is his woman, he is the enemy arrraagghhh can't do anything about it".

The reality is that you don't know who this guy is or what relationship she has with him (could be her brother, cousin, close male friend, AFC male friend, gay, or just some random guy she knows who she lets him jump in her pants every tuesday night. It also could be her boyrfriend)

What you want to do is chat up to everyone in the group. Its a little bit harder then to try to game and isolate a girl but who said being a DJ was meant to be easy??!. When you chat to everyone and make them laugh you essentially disarm everyone and you can make that guy who is with her your friend. Then you can just casually ask how they know each other and what is their relationship with each other. You might find out she is in fact with that guy but at least you created some social proof and had a good time.

DJD
 
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