How do you know if you came in too strong?

[dudewut]

-After going out with friends I was at the train station waiting for a train that did not seem to want to come.
-Hot girl comes in
-Decide not to approach because I thought its the end of my night
-Random dude starts talking to her
-She came over and asked if she could sit beside me because the dude is creeping her out
-Got to talking, more like b!tching how the **** the train isnt there
-Inside my head I went "fvck it, Imma go for it" since she is flipping her hair/playing with it like crazy
-She asked me what my nationality is, I told her to guess, she guessed right because she is a half breed
-Went for kino, no resistance on forearm touch
-More talking, i mention a restaurant and then she told me she always wanted to go there (funny because I did not say anything about going there)
-She told me she just came back from work
-I took it as a clue and then asked her if she wants to go, she said she would love to sometime
-Train arrives, she decided to follow me at the end of the train and sit beside me
-More talk, more kino
-Some loud drunk dudes come in and she told me "hey say we are cousins ok? I feel like they are about to do something and they're creeping me out"
-I replied with "sure I'll be like 'yeah we are cousins *brushes off lock of her hair behind ear with my finger' but our relationship is very incestious" she laughs at this
-Got to talking, I escalated kino to light touch on thigh/we were really close to each other. At one point sort of put my arm around her, but I pulled back.
-She said she needs to get home by 6am because her mom needs the car for work and its already like 5:40, I told her I will teach her to be bad because that is my specialty and since she is in trouble anyways, fvck the tickets just speed home. She laughs at this.
-Its her stop, she said it was nice meeting you blah blah blah, add me on facebook
-But then we didnt have time so I just went "just give me your number and I'll text you" (big mistake, I should have EXCHANGED phone numbers)
-She gave it to me
-I kino escalated one more time and as she tries to give me a one arm hug, I came in for the cheek kiss touch thingy sorta like what gay people do I guess (Adam Lyons calls this the comfort building/close thing...or was it mystery?)

-Just texted her "how many speeding tickets so far? -Dudewut" no replies yet


I feel like I did not do a good job here. My friend who was observing said it was a textbook pickup. But in all honesty I feel like I did 60% of the talking, and she did not really initiate a lot of questions near the end only in the beginning and it seems like I failed on the comfort part.

Edit: But then again she did mention passing out when she got home so yeah, I mean she worked the 11am to 4am shift so meh

 

[Renegade357]

Well how long did you wait before you texted her? You shoulda got her number earlier too, that was risky but at least you got it.

 

[Iceberg]

I feel like I did not do a good job here. My friend who was observing said it was a textbook pickup. But in all honesty I feel like I did 60% of the talking, and she did not really initiate a lot of questions near the end only in the beginning and it seems like I failed on the comfort part.

Edit: But then again she did mention passing out when she got home so yeah, I mean she worked the 11am to 4am shift so meh

I don't think you did anything wrong here. It was a perfect example of taking advantage of an opportunity. Some drunk clowns scared her away, so she sits down near you, and you use it as an opportunity.

How could you have failed on the comfort part? We're talking about a train ride home. Not a whole lot of chance to build comfort in that situation. That's what the phone is for.

If the girl doesn't like you, then she doesn't like you. But I don't think you did anything terribly wrong in this situation.

Even with this part...

-But then we didnt have time so I just went "just give me your number and I'll text you" (big mistake, I should have EXCHANGED phone numbers)

...at the end of the day it's like, who cares? That's not going to make or break a girl's attraction to you. If anything, it gives you an excuse to send a "Here's my number" text message.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your def over-analyzing. Do you know why?

Because sub-conciously you have put this girl above you, as if she is better than you.

You did great. Showed you had humor, went for what you wanted, touched her and she was receptive.

Give her the benefit of the doubt since she worked a long @rse shift and probably passed the phuck out when she got home.

If she doesn't text you back, chill back and wait for 3-4 days, then text her again.

If she still doesn't text back, then put her on the back burner.

Whatever you do, keep meeting new girls, and keep that desperation vibe at bay.






PIMP

 

[dudewut]

...at the end of the day it's like, who cares? That's not going to make or break a girl's attraction to you. If anything, it gives you an excuse to send a "Here's my number" text message.

yeah I did that lol


Im just tripping because this girl is REALLY hot, and its not every day I get to have a hot chick approach me, whew yeah Im definitely overthinking right now

Well how long did you wait before you texted her? You shoulda got her number earlier too, that was risky but at least you got it.

About an hour two hours later just to let her know my number and for her to save it lol I usually ask for a number near the end of an attempt just in case she is one of those girls that teases you to no end with no number close, so its not as awkward if she does not wanna give it to me.

 

[Renegade357]

About an hour two hours later just to let her know my number and for her to save it lol I usually ask for a number near the end of an attempt just in case she is one of those girls that teases you to no end with no number close, so its not as awkward if she does not wanna give it to me.

Yeah, that's fine. I woulda waited 5 days or so then called her and asked her out for a drink directly. You'd probably hit her vmail if she didn't recognize the number but that's no big deal. I guess it's a style thing. I hate texts.

 

[Young Juan]

not bad, keep shooting, don't be outcome dependent. The question is this: did you have fun? If you did, keep on keeping at it

 

[csycpr]

Sheesh, if this effort is what you call failing to do a good job, what are you like when you're on fire?

Whatever the reason she didn't reply, I can't see how "coming on too strong" could really be at fault.

 

[TopGun2000]

you did nothing wrong. follow what pimp said

 

[dudewut]

24 hours, no response from cute girl yet...

should have gotten more numbers