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How do you kiss and not get hard?

Eternal_water

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I guess its easier for the experienced DJ's to make out with girls and not get obviously hard while doing so (to the point that it shows!!)

Or maybe you can do that once you are no longer a virgin which I unfortunately am.

I was kissing 2 girls in the club last night and couldn't stop the thing (visibly) rising.

I never notice anyone else have this issue, does this go away once you are no longer a virgin or something?
 

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it will get better with more experience kissing, but it will never completely go away. With my first gf I had the same problem, and at the beginning would get blue balls after a heavy make out session, but as time went on I started to get more "stamina" and stopped getting blue balls.

And there's really nothing wrong with getting hard while kissing a girl.
 

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I was married for 8 years, together with her for 9. Obviously we had sex many times during that period. Every single time she would give me a kiss before either of us left for work I would get an erection. Every time. So no, it probably isn't going to stop once you get laid.
 

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Hahaha stick it against her. Works every time.
 

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Wtf.......

You are a man. You don't have to be ashamed of having an erection. Have some self respect. These types of insecurities are destructive.
 

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Show it to the b1tch
 

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Grab her hand and stick it down your pants. ...
 

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SamTheHobit said:
Hahaha stick it against her. Works every time.
yeah listen to the other virgin for advice with women:rolleyes:
 

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You got wood...be thankful.

Just say to her next time: " Let me whip this out"!
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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Never be ashamed of or hide an erection. Don't believe the Hollywood BS that they think it's gross or a turnoff, they love it. Don't draw attention to it or press it on her, but don't hide it either. If you run into women who react negatively to it, that's a great screening mechanism to get rid of the dregs. Quality women like the fact that a man kissing them gets hard.
 

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Thanks for replying everyone, just to clarify though I am a member of staff and I was working so I can't be rubbing up against them or putting their hands down my trousers etc
 

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Eternal_water said:
Thanks for replying everyone, just to clarify though I am a member of staff and I was working so I can't be rubbing up against them or putting their hands down my trousers etc
But you can kiss them? Just what kind of job do you have, man? lol
 

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the time to worry is when you dont get hard....just dont get hard kissing your mother or sister ;-)
 

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Mike32ct said:
Tell her it's a side effect of the No FAP challenge lol.

Seriously, don't worry about it. You can always pull your crotch away from her a bit if it's making you uncomfortable.
Hah.

Yeah, I think the bigger question is - WHY is it making him uncomfortable?

The whole point of kissing and making contact with women is because it's supposed to be arousing. They want you to have a boner. They like it.


Eternal_water said:
Thanks for replying everyone, just to clarify though I am a member of staff and I was working so I can't be rubbing up against them or putting their hands down my trousers etc
Well, kind of a stupid post then, isn't it? Considering that you claim to be making out with two girls while on the job.

Keep your story straight.
 

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erm, it is straight.

I'm hardly gonna make it up to make myself look good anonymously on the internet then claim to be a virgin am I.
 

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That's always a good thing. Fvck watt she thinks lol.

Your a man, if its a new chick or a girl you kissed for the firts time 90 percent of the time I get a hard on witch indicates that ill be able to give her a good smashing.
 

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Eternal_water said:
I guess its easier for the experienced DJ's to make out with girls and not get obviously hard while doing so (to the point that it shows!!)

Or maybe you can do that once you are no longer a virgin which I unfortunately am.

I was kissing 2 girls in the club last night and couldn't stop the thing (visibly) rising.

I never notice anyone else have this issue, does this go away once you are no longer a virgin or something?

Are you kidding me...grab her hand and put on top of your wood over your pants and she will likely squeeze it.....then you know you are probably taking her home...

But to answer your question about how to kiss and not get a hard on...jut get your self into a long term relationship. You will be kissing all the time without getting hard after a few months or so.
 

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betheman said:
the time to worry is when you dont get hard....just dont get hard kissing your mother or sister ;-)
:crackup: :crackup:
 

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