"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you keep the faith going?

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Man after having so many dates, so many relationships and so much irritation, what do you guys do to keep the hope up?

Honestly if it weren't for the physical rush of meeting and banging new girls, I'd probably just give up on going out with new chicks completely since they all end up disappointing me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get a life, man! lol
Man's purpose in life is to spread the seed, not get disappointed in girls.

Take it easy
 
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Ricky,

What adler321 said. Get involved in other things so that you're not thinking about women so much.

Until you find the one (or ones) that are suitable for you, you'll necessarily have to go through many.

Think of it like this. Many tons of rock & dirt have to be dug up and sifted through before you find diamonds and gold. Keep digging and you'll find that gem of a girl (or girls) that are worthy of you.

Don't sweat it. Have fun.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 
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Im cool today. I just blew a fuse yesterday.
 
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Ricky, you are wound way too tight.

You are thinking way too hard about stuff that should be instinctive.

Take a deep breath and relax.

Gipper
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're acting way too melodramatic, man. You are a man, aren't you?
 
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If your life is busy enough - women won't be on your mind so much. (ie. Polite way of saying get a life)
 
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Actually my life is really busy and that is part of the problem. I seriously at this point have time to date only one or two times a week. That is why I hate it when it takes a few dates to find out a chick is a loser.

In a few months this will change since I'll only be working and I'll be done with grad school.
 
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Originally posted by Ricky
That is why I hate it when it takes a few dates to find out a chick is a loser.
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How else do you plan to find out about a chick other than spend a little time with her? Getting a job ain't gonna change that.
 
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Ok well this time I got fooled by her after a few dates. I thought she was worthwile.

ON the other hand maybe it was just one bad date. Time will tell.

She sure as hell did piss me off though.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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