How do you keep interest for a long time??!

[DJDamage]

I noticed a problem I am having latley. Whenever I am around a women I am attracted too, I tend to go into this mode where all I do is try to be funny. I crack jokes and make them laugh. Which is fine because I am having a good time and so are they. I feel very natural and I feel as if I can do no wrong.

The problem starts is when I no longer have any material or anything funny to say. When there is no laughter I feel as if the women around me become cold and distant which makes me uncomfortable and stressful. It also been happening to me latley on dates where I am real funny, charming and confident one minute and the next I feel like a boring unfunny old fart. Its as if I feel that I have to be "ON" all the time like a comedian and if I don't have good material's the audience will scatter. Latley two women I have been dating stopped seeing me all together with in a span of a week and part of me suspects its because I am acting differently all the time.

I am just wondering how do most deal with it??

 

[edmond]

Just forget them and move on.

 

[blueguy]

This is the problem with the mindset of the AFC, "how do I keep interest?" The reality is that you do what makes you happy and lead her along. If she doesn't like it or in other ways acts without respect, you withdraw. If she follows, she's your girl. It's really that simple.

 

[Kings_royalty]

It sounds like you are trying to perform for the girls, or keep them entertained like it's your job or something, bad move bro. The girls can sense you are trying to put up an 'act' for them and it's turning them off.

You need to relax, be yourself, lay back and find something interesting to talk about, engage her curiosity. There is so much going on around you that it should be impossible to run out of things to talk about.

Just remember what you talk about isn't as important as making a connection with women. It's not about material, it's about substance. If you make a deep, primal connection with women, they will be satisfied talking about their laundry detergent.

 

[NewMan]

So is this 'canned' stuff you are talking about?

It sounds like what is happening is that your not being yourself - because if this was the natural you, then surely you'd not run out of things to say.

Also, sometimes it just doesn't work. The dynamic between you and the chick is such, that you don't get a good vibe from her. One thing about having a good repore with someone is the ability for both your personality to bounce and work off of each other. If she is just sitting there like an audience waiting to be entertained - then everyone eventually will run out of things to say.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This reminds me of the threads about the importance of looks. Rely on only one aspect of sarging and at best it will only get you in the door. One quality alone won't keep many women interested for long.

 

[Nighthawk]

By being genuinely interesting. Passions, opinions, curiosity, knowledge - what is life without these?

 

[squirrels]

Good comedians never run out of material. But they don't have to crack jokes all the time to be liked, either. They're people too. You think Dane Cook is always acting like a nutjob? You think Dave Chappelle is always barking racial jokes in that annoying voice of his? As KR said, stop trying to "perform" and start learning to express your sense of humor through your natural behavior.

Pace your jokes...your dumping all your material early-on and then having nothing to offer for the rest of the night is tantamount to you busting a nut 3 seconds into sex.

We won't even go into why you feel obligated to entertain people to be "worthy" of being around them. If you're gonna try to "buy" women's company with jokes, then you may as well become a stand-up comic, make bank, and pay for high-dollar prostitutes.