How do you keep BPD at distance after breakup ?

[georgie24]

i know NC is key, my situation is complicated and theres high chance she come groveling back or pull attention stunts.

instead of me being a prickk or hiding in the house how do i effectivley communicate with her when/if she comes around?

last time she came she asked, were i was, why didnt i pick up phone ect ect ect.

i neec some counsel how to manage myself around this girl without commiting to things by mistake then she starts popping up ahead.

 

[MonkeyButt]

Nancy Regan

Just say no!

You need some hard boundaries my friend.
You don't need to answer her questions.
I assume that there is unfinished business or children that makes NC difficult?

Just tell her, any contact must be strictly business.
You don't owe her explanations anymore.

I went though all this, it gets worse when they need a "fix".
Strictly business!

MB

 

[georgie24]

Just say no!

You need some hard boundaries my friend.
You don't need to answer her questions.
I assume that there is unfinished business or children that makes NC difficult?Just tell her, any contact must be strictly business.
You don't owe her explanations anymore.

I went though all this, it gets worse when they need a "fix".
Strictly business!

MB

yes, some utilities are in her name as is the lease to the apt, i have been paying the bills with checks to my account.

everything yuo say is true, it has to be strictly biz i have told her that many times and clearly, she hasnt come in a few days or try to contact me, im assuming its a cycle and she will be back ( unnanounced)

i dont let her kiss me or any of that and sex is definatly a no no, she is very prettty but her ugly personaility i prob couldnt even get it up, it wouldnt get to that point anyway

 

[GameOfNoGame]

Are you sure she's BPD? I mean, abandonment issues does sound more like BPD than what more people here attribute to it (their's usually sound more sociopathic) but why wouldn't just being straight with her if she does anything work?