“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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How do you initiate hand-holding with a girl?

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I wanna hold hands with this girl while we're walking, but I'm not sure how to go about doing it.

I touch her on the shoulder / arm constantly while we're walking, and she usually laughs and smiles everytime I touch her, but I'm not sure how to transition from this to holding hands, which seems like a big step up. Do I straight up say "do you wanna hold hands?" in the middle of a conversation? Or do I use a push-pull like "i really want to hold your hand right now, but I'm not sure I know you well enough" and hope that she goes ahead and takes my hand?

Any suggestions would be great.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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it should happen naturally... or at least it does, if both of you want it....

its not a science lol... just walk close to her, open your hand and catch hers gently...

in what kind of relationship are you? just friends? gf/bf? or what?
 
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Dude.... if you have to ask to HOLD HER HAND, then you have no chance getting any further.

DJ's take what they want. Just grab it next time you're walking together. Preferably when its just the two of you, and after you just teased her in a good flirty way. It really isn't that hard.
 
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sav said:
it should happen naturally... or at least it does, if both of you want it....

its not a science lol... just walk close to her, open your hand and catch hers gently...

in what kind of relationship are you? just friends? gf/bf? or what?
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I've gone out with this girl twice but I'd consider us just friends--i'm trying to change that through kino into something more
 
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DON'T HOLD HER HAND

LET HER HOLD YOUR HAND, OR EVEN AVOID IT WHEN SHE TRIES.... assuming you're with a girl that's sure of herself and confident... ease into that ****.. you don't want to be falling in love now do you...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what i sometimes also do when walking a girl "friend" home or just walking somewhere.. stick out your arm and let her wrap her arm around yours at the elbow... i do it with girls that a friends all the time...
 
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Watch the show "Next" on MTV. Almost everytime the guy will immediately grab the chicks hand as soon as they leave the house.

My personal expierences where I held hands with women I just grabbed their hands. None has every said "stop/fat chance" or so on.
 
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didn't look at any other post. When the time is right just hold her hand. Sh!t you can do it at any time for no reason just as long as it feels right to you.
 
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What a shocking question... I did it a couple of weeks ago with a girl i tried gaming just make a few jokes tease em and then grab there hand while walking.. NO FYCKING FORMULAE HERE

The ***** in question with me held my hand and we walked like to the next club butttt she asked me your not my boyfriend why are you holding my hand. I think my response was 'doesn't matter'.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Don't worry Jester, I know where you are coming from.

The best advice has already been given. Just do it.

But if you need a little extra...

GRAB HER HAND AND LEAD HER. Just grab it and lead her somewhere you want her to go. I.e. through a crowd or through a door. When you are done leading her just simply do not let go and start walking side by side.

This should be more natural and less akward (as you seem to be a friend at this point) than just grabbing it as you are walking side by side.


The ring/nail/reflexology/palm reading trick.
This one helped me become the MASTER of kino I am now. I started using it back when I was uberAFC. This is more of a PUA tactic used during an initial encounter but it's good training wheels for you until you learn to fly.

If she has a ring on simply grab her hand to get a better look. If she doesn't have a ring then look at her (polished?) nails or life line or something (be creative). Once you grab her hand just kind of go off on a tangent about something else while still holding/carresing her hand.

And last but not least is the cold hand trick. If your hand is cold grab hers and put it over yours and tell her to warm it up. Or if hers are cold grab hers and start rubbing them.
 
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KillaPetehog said:
Dude, if you wanna hold her hand, just go and hold her hand.

Watch how she reacts. That reaction will tell you a lot.

A word of warning tho....hand-holding is going the boyfriend/girlfriend route. So if this girl is just a friend...it won't quite work that way. You gotta ease into it. Trust your gut feeling. Trust your feelings. You'll know if this girl is diggin you or not.
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What do you mean by "ease into it"? If I'm already doing light kino like touching her arm / shoulder, how is there possibly a better way to "ease into it"? And yes, she's just a friend, but then how does anyone convert a friend into something more if not by kino?

Also, since this girl laughs / smiles everytime I touch her on the arm / shoulder, shouldn't this be a thumbs up to holding hands?
 
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