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How do you host a college party?

Maxtro

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College is starting in a few weeks and this year I plan on getting some by trying some new things. One thing I kept hearing about getting laid in college is that a lot of people hook up at parties or meet people at them. A lot of the advice I’ve read also said that it’s really good if you host your own party. So what are the steps to hosting a good party and getting known on campus?

I have a smallish 1 bedroom apartment that’s 2 miles from campus which is a commuter school (small number of people live on campus) The living room is 14’ x 13’ and can be very open in the middle. The kitchen is only separated from the living room by a bar. I currently only have a love seat, computer chair and two chairs for a built in table. I’d need to get some additional chairs and a folding table or something as well.

I’m over 21 so getting booze is not a problem BTW I don’t look my age at all. I have a great sound system and about 7-8 hour’s worth of hand-picked party music. I also got a Wii and PS3 with Rockband 2 and a full set of instruments.

There are a couple of worries. First off this is my place and I don’t want things broken or the property damaged. Second this year is basically a fresh start meaning I don’t know anybody on campus. There is nobody from last year that I am still in touch with or would want to be. I don’t think that it’s too bad of a thing because there are going to be a ton of people coming in the fall.

So here’s what I want to do.
Attract a small crowd with a good guy to girl ratio
Maintain control so things don’t get out of hand
Make sure people have a good time
Get lucky :p

I’d love to get some advice and tips on how to get started.
 

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1. invite people on facebook and tell them to bring whoever
2. make sure it doesn't conflict with another party
3. have music that doesn't suck and speakers

Don't worry about chairs and ****, people shouldn't be sitting anyway
 

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If you are doing this to meet friends and have hookeups then be aware of what you are getting yourself into before having one.

I remember going to good college parties at other people apartments and the following usually happen:

- everyone will get either drunk or high and really loud so you will have problems with the neighbours.

- If the police shows up it is you who will have to explain why there is noise, underage drinking and drugs. Not to mention they will be filing charges.

- People are going to mess your living room up whether its with food or smash your belongings or even puke on the floor.

- While you are busy hosting the party, there will be people hooking up in your bed and that is just disgusting.

I would suggest to only invite those you meet in other parties who you think are cool to come to your place so that you will keep the party small and in control. As long as you bring plenty of booze to other parties, you are going to make plenty of friends and then convince the sexy coed to finish up the party at your place.
 

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I dont think hosting a party in an apartment is a very good idea to begain with. Very likely that the cops will be called by your neighbers and it could get you with alot of trouble considering most college parties involve drugs, underage drinkin and loud noise.
 

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ok wow theres a lot that goes on if you want to be known as the 'guy with the sweet parties'. remember one thing, FIRST IMPRESSION IS EVERYTHING. if you throw an amazing party your first time around, people will talk about it with their friends and your turnouts will grow exponentially.

first off... it basically has to have a theme. now if you looking to get laid, make it a theme where the girl is dressed up slutty. examples would be CEO's and corporate ho's, angels and devils, hawaii paradise, golf pros and tennis ho's, etc. when a girl is dressed up and "in theme", it will almost be natural for her to let her inhibitions fly ;) .

second... me and my friends who were party-goers all had the same rule of thumb for telling whether or not a party was good/worth staying at

rule of thumb -- IS THE GIRL TO GUY RATIO IN THE GIRL'S FAVOR? if so, its a good party

it always sucks to be all excited and walk into a party just to see a bunch of freaking guys standing around with 2 chics.

so how do u make sure that you get chics to come (especially if this is your first party your throwing)? give them incentives. say that guys have to buy five dollars for a cup to the keg/sweet punch mixer you made and girls get it free. also if your inviting guy friends, tell them ahead of time that they will not get in unless they bring two girls per guy. if your really hard on chics, just walk around campus handing out flyers (no joke, but sometimes this can get out of hand haha trust me)

third... now you know a theme and how to get the guests (alot of girls hopefully), you need to get the atmosphere created. if you have a lot of rooms, it works great to designate each room to a cause. have one room for the loud music and dancing/grinding. have another for the amogs to play beer pong and flip cup. and have one that is quieter with a couch or something so guys can take girls back their to talk/makeout/whatever.

i would not recommend you leave your wii or game systems out (they will get trashed).

another thing... for your first party (remember, first impression!) i would seriously recommend buying all the alcohol yourself and having a buddy be a bartender for you. if you want to be known as THE party guy, it will take some time and effort AND funds at first.

a friend of mine is literally paying for his college by hosting parties (that he charges people to get into). he really knows what he was doing let me tell you. his first party he spent over 400 dollars on alcohol and another 150 or something on supplies and decorations and ****. he made a sacrifice at first to make an amazing first impression and it worked out for him. now like 2 years later (about 1 party every other weekend sometimes once a week) he is charging like 5-10 dollars to get into his parties and litterally 50-60 people come regularly. it is crazy and its sooo much fun.


hope this helped man... party on
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oh and i didnt even think about the fact that you are in a freakin apartment. well sh*t that complicates things a bit. the only thing i can think of is actually inviting all of your neighbors within hearing distance and let them in for free. "if you cant beat em, join em" (this quote knda works but not really haha)
 

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Prodigy746 said:
I dont think hosting a party in an apartment is a very good idea to begain with. Very likely that the cops will be called by your neighbers and it could get you with alot of trouble considering most college parties involve drugs, underage drinkin and loud noise.
I'm a college freshman and that's a gross generalization, I go to Penn State and just about EVERYBODY in junior year and above hosts or attends apartment parties...of course, it's the #1 party school, but the cops don't get called and nothing beyond marijuana is usually done.....basically here everybody is drunk on the weekends and the cops can do nothing but pick off the stumbling drunks.

But of course, it's a monday and I'm just coming home still sort of drunk :) i'm just saying it varies.
 

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Thanks for the advice guys, lot of it is really good.

I'm definitely uneasy about having a bunch of people I don't know over at my place. I rather not have my things broken and I don't want anybody in my room.

Since it is a small apartment I can only have a limited amount of people inside. So I would want to control who comes.

I like the idea of having a theme. Good tips on getting more girls to come.

Before I seriously consider hosting my own party, I would like to go to a couple first. What's the best way to find out about the regular parties?
 

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First and foremost:
-as the host, u are liable for everything so DO NOT get that drunk..keep a buzz
Def set up an area for beer pong and flip cup..
-guys love pong and chicks dig flip cup...
-if ur awesome at both games the chicks will be dying to be on ur team and u can work ur game from there...
-also make sure the music is mixed with both new stuff and classic stuff that ppl love to hear once they're drunk
-charge guys (but have a VIP list) and dont u dare charge girls
-walk around and introduce urself to everyone telling them its ur place and if they need something let u know
-better to have to much alcohol than not enough
 

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the best parties I hosted were with those that were the MOST fun to be with. If you can find FUN people who won't kill the party and encourage others to sit and watch TV invite THEM.

I have experience with plenty of party hosting. The main thing is to have fun and try out crazy new **** to have fun at parties. Twister for example, i busted that on when we were drunk and that was a fun way to get closer to some girls.

Learn from every party because they call it 'throwing a party' for that reason. You really risk things being bad or good. SO improvise, stay on your feet, and make sure before hand everyone will be comfortable.
 

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