"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tehownerer

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I was at the gym talking to this girl over the counter. Then these two guys walk up and started chatting with her. I just waited and listen to them for a bit. I felt like these guys where pretending I wasn't there so I just pulled out my phone pretend texting LOL left a couple min later..

She just a friend,but I was thinking what if it was a girl that I was interested in and that happen. I just don't wanna stand right there for couple min like I'm waiting for my turn.

so how do I go about this? treat the other guys like ugly girls? leave and come back? Stand there until they are done talking....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cinamon

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The best thing in these situations is to get involved in to the conversation somehow, they you wont feel uncomfortable waiting on the sidelines.
 

tehownerer

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Cinamon said:
The best thing in these situations is to get involved in to the conversation somehow, they you wont feel uncomfortable waiting on the sidelines.
I got some sleep I realize maybe I was just intimated because they were big buff guys.
 
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umm.. stop making the girl a priority. If something like that happens just say your goodbyes and go about your business. you're at the gym to workout, if it's convenient then pick up chicks if not they get your sh!t done.
 

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AAAgent said:
umm.. stop making the girl a priority. If something like that happens just say your goodbyes and go about your business. you're at the gym to workout, if it's convenient then pick up chicks if not they get your sh!t done.
hey hey I do finish my workout befor I start chatting. I go to the gym to get Tone up and Build muscle.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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tehownerer

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Espi said:
THIS is excellent advice! You MUST signal to a girl that your time is extremely valuable and that it's not be fvucked around with...saying your goodbyes and walking away (proud and smiling, BTW...head held high) will likely get you in her pants much quicker than acting nice and trying to be part of the convo with her and the other two knuckleheads.
hmmm thats sounds good cause I felt that if I try to be part of there convo it feels needy.
 

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I agree that you should walk away, but I would first interrupt their convo (bc I am just a natural dik head) with "Hey 'girlsname', I'm peacin out..." then ask a question that relates to her like "when do you work next?" or something... or even just leave it at "I'm peacin out, see u later."

Austin
 

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Staying there and waiting on her shows neediness, desperation, and that your time is not valuable. So like the others have said, just give her a smile and walk away. Besides, you came to work out.
 
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Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable joining in like Cinnamon suggested. The only time I would join is if they were totally non threatening. If there were two of them and they had attitude, I think most people would end up seeming weak if they joined in.

I would have walked off. If someone chooses to let our conversation be interrupted by strangers... she doesn't deserve my attention just then.

jdbman11 said it much better than me, though.
 

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It all about how you carry yourself and every little thing that you do exudes a type of vibe. Slowly work on bettering yourself instead of trying to game girls. My game is natural, i don't pursue them i just sit down and they come to me. girls are attracted by real men, and a real man does not fuss and whine over any one particular girl. First and foremost take care of you, the rest will fall into place.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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