How do you handle these types of **** tests?

[SoSuaveDJ123]

For example:

Girlfriend asks me for a favor. I don't feel like it, but she keeps asking and asking all sweet and sweet. I know for a fact that if I keep rebutting, she'll explode and get mad and then not talk to Me.
So, I oblige, she gets really happy and shows more love.

Now, when its my turn for a favor, lets say a sexy pic:

Me: send me a sexy pic babe
Her: what? I don't feel like it babe
Me: why not?
Her: idk
Me: *doesnt get mad, but gets mildly annoyed*
Her: ok, ok ill do it

Then, she puts it off, but then finally agrees to do it. Then:

Her: picture isn't happening
Me: why?
Her: *excuse*
Me: ok.
Her: are you angry?
Me: no
Her: why do you get mad about **** like this all the time? See I know your mad. That's why I don't do stuff like this because if I don't send it to you, you get mad
Me: I'm not mad
Her: whatever
Me: *joke*
Her; that's not funny. Whatever. I have to go. I can't believe you.

As you can see, I didn't get angry, but she thinks I get angry. It's a blatant **** test.

Stuff like this happens alot. I feel like she uses me, but then again she is loving alot of the time. How do I handle **** like this? Is she just trying to test my alpha frame? You guys say to get a girl invested in you by making her do things. How can I make her do things for me when they're this hard?

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

Well in your first dialogue with her, the whole *doesn't get mad, but mildly annoyed" might do it. You get mildly annoyed that she won't send you a dirty picture?

That just seems desperate in my opinion. If she says no, don't get "mildly annoyed" be indifferent. If that's what you expect out of your girlfriend in a relationship, then find a girlfriend who can meet those needs. You don't want her to feel like she's belittling her values to make you happy. Find a woman who is happy to do it.

 

[SoSuaveDJ123]

No I know that, but she almost EXPECTS me to get angry, them if I don't, she gets mad and says "I know you're angry."

Then she'll nag me about that.

What the hell is a dude supposed to do? If I just hang up on her/withdraw attention, she'll be even more resentful. If I suplicate, I lose frame and power.

These situations come up like once-twice a month and it pisses me off. Should I get angry? Should I yell and curse her out? Or is that exactly what she wants from me?

 

[Vidrio]

You shouldn't have responded after she said pics not happening. You need to stop doing her favors. If she gets mad and stops talking to you(which is likely to happen), good riddance. You should drop her now IMO.

 

[VladPatton]

Somewhere early on you slipped up with the favors in the relationship relationship. Don't acknowledge this issue in the next few days, it's over, and this is what she chose as your reward. An excuse and no pic for you. No problem. Next time she wants a favor, make up an excuse and don't give in. Just don't do it. She got away scott-free. All you ask for is a measly pic that takes 2 minutes to do. I bet she has Twitter and Facebook and throws up pictures of food and pets all the time.

Come on, man.

Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to be a prick to get your girl's attitude re-adjusted. Be patient. Wait for the next favor and do your thing.

Good luck.

 

[Alicanto]

Instead of being revengeful, maybe you should try to solve the problem by taking a bit more control of the relationship.

Her: that's not funny. Whatever. I have to go. I can't believe you.

You were supposed to be mad! Not her! WTF whe meant with "I can't believe you"?
Be straight. You could have said something like "If you don't want to take a sexy pic for me, I can't force you to do so. But I'd really like it if you did."

That shows you're not satisfied with her attitude. If you don't do her favors, she'd probably get mad. You have the right to do it too.

When a girl got you by the balls, it's over. She's not interested anymore.
If she cuts the texting like that, don't talk to her unless she comes talk to you again. Talk to other girls while you wait. That shows that if you're not satisfied with her, you don't need her.