"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How do you handle the haters
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DisobeyThePope
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now, people here might think i'm an *******/jerk but i am not. i treat everyone w/ respect and i don't talk ****. if you are a genuinely good person, and people still hate on you, they're jealous.
oops, i just realized i didn't answer your ? how do i handle it? oh i wish i knew this years ago! this is how i handle it:
BE UNAFFECTED. haters want to see a reaction from you. if you react, you just gave your power away. but if you brush it off and act as if their negative energy has absolutely no effect on you, you still hold the power (i said act "as if," because from my own experience, @ first it was hard to simply brush it off.. but surprisingly, i continued to act "as if" and eventually negative energy from the haters really did not effect me at all)
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
No matter who you are, where you are, what you are, what time period you're in, there will ALWAYS be haters.
There are a bunch of people that hate Jesus Christ, what the heck did he ever do to them?
I bet some people hate me just for writing this paragraph, for one reason or another. Just don't let it get to you. If they are hating you for something you are doing negative, you could stop if you see it is wrong, but if they hate on you b/c you're just being yourself. Too fvcken bad, you should give a flying fvck about them.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MightyMate
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Blackdragon5095
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The new guy who hatin' on me is really is stupid me and some of my friends laugh our ass off at him. Half the time he tries to act cool to me as if he my friend. One time he got mad at me and said he didn't feel good and I said I didn't care and he just shut up. Did I say stupid ???
:crackup:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
um friends....? okay, if they're ur friends, they're just cracking on you and i'm guessing u give them a rection. Don't give them a reaction and after a while they'll probably get bored.
Blackdragon5095
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Your making this harder then it is. Stop worrying about someone not liking you. Not everyone is gonna like you so deal with it and move on. You are a Dj you got better things to be doing besies worrying about some idoit who talks trash acting hard and cool and gose home to watch porn because he can't get a chick.
My Grandmother told me this ( If someone can't respect theirselfs then they don't respect other people ).
Haters waste your time, when you could be doing self-improvement, your worrying what they will do next. Haters don't have a life.
For the girl part, just like men are confused about women, women are confused about men. Rude women try to take their pain out on you and get your attention. I had girl do this to me couple of times. 1 time I was standing in class looking at newspaper and the girl said somethings smells bad and came over to me and sniff and said you smell and walked away, her friend said " you don't smell ". It didn't really hurt me, I just went back to reading the newspaper. Just ignore rude girls.
P.S. if this is really getting on your nerves tell the consulors that they are trying to start a fight with you and they will handle it. Don't let people do whatever they want to you.
As for the other idiots, they're just envious. They only talk trash because they're jealous of the fact that you dress nice or something. If they weren't jealous, they wouldn't be talking garbage in the first place, right?
Don't give a crap about what others think. You're your own person!
P.S. Dressing nice to school is good man. You stand out from the:
1) guys with horrible taste in clothes
2) guys who think they're hot doo-doo and wear baggy/gangster sh*t
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Okay, and if you are, what is the problem........?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What haters?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.