"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how do you guys over come procrastination?

Master Cheif

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i just learned to live with it! nothing wrong with procrastination aslong as it gets done.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I turn the TV off, sign off sosuave or facebook, hop up off my couch and turn my swag onn!
 

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There is no silver bullet, but here are a few tips I use.

1. The longer you wait, the harder it is to start. If you wait too long, even a simple task will feel impossible. It's like approaching women. Your anxiety will start out low but soar as time goes on if you don't act. So you must start immediately to get moving or you will eventually will be unable to act at all.

2. Break the task down into pieces.

3. Start with the easiest and most fun piece first to get some momentum. No matter how bad the task is, there is probably one piece of it you enjoy. Starting with that will take your mind of this "I hate this entire project" thought pattern.
 

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I simply keep a firm vision of what I'm becoming into with my goals and aspirations, and tell myself that in order to be the individual I aim to be, I need to form, develop, and nurture the habits that make up that individual.

Many times that means forcing myself to stop doing something or getting back to business.
 
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