"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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how do you guys over come procrastination?

Master Cheif

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i just learned to live with it! nothing wrong with procrastination aslong as it gets done.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I turn the TV off, sign off sosuave or facebook, hop up off my couch and turn my swag onn!
 

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There is no silver bullet, but here are a few tips I use.

1. The longer you wait, the harder it is to start. If you wait too long, even a simple task will feel impossible. It's like approaching women. Your anxiety will start out low but soar as time goes on if you don't act. So you must start immediately to get moving or you will eventually will be unable to act at all.

2. Break the task down into pieces.

3. Start with the easiest and most fun piece first to get some momentum. No matter how bad the task is, there is probably one piece of it you enjoy. Starting with that will take your mind of this "I hate this entire project" thought pattern.
 

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I simply keep a firm vision of what I'm becoming into with my goals and aspirations, and tell myself that in order to be the individual I aim to be, I need to form, develop, and nurture the habits that make up that individual.

Many times that means forcing myself to stop doing something or getting back to business.
 
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