TheGambino
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How do You Guys make girls feel special without putting them on a pedestal or being approving/needy?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How do You Guys make a girl feel special?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Roober
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Part of it is listening to your woman. Sex doesn't make a woman feel special because you can do that to anyone. For me, it is all about listening. They want to know that you listen to their nonsense. For example, my lady drew a picture and I noticed that she drew pretty good. She mentioned that she was used to sketch all the time and she really enjoys drawing. So about a month later I got a sketch pad and some pencils on amazon for 15 bucks and gave it to her. She was nearly in tears and very happy. First thing she said, "you remember that?"
It was a small gesture that required very little effort on my part, but shows that I listen on occasion.
It was a small gesture that required very little effort on my part, but shows that I listen on occasion.
Open the car door for her every single time..
I did this.for years with a few girls.
1 it shows you take care of your.woman by.making her.feel.special.
2 the next guy wont do this and they will always remember you did.. F them
I did this.for years with a few girls.
1 it shows you take care of your.woman by.making her.feel.special.
2 the next guy wont do this and they will always remember you did.. F them
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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AJ84
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This. That absolutely is the best way to make a girl feel special. Doesn't have to be some expensive dinner. Little personalized stuff like that girls will remember.
Von
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Good thread Gambino:
Sex is not special for her because she can get it anywhere... or you can have it anywhere.... Love or intimacy will make her think of you above the ''physical''
So to make her feel special... she needs to know and feel she's above the physical.
You have to do, by action, stuff that doesn't sound to make sense to you but it will to her.
Listening to her non-sense like Roober said
Open the door for her
Buying flower
Cooking for her
Something special and unique that shows you put effort,emotions,caring in it
Above all: DO SOMETHING SHE FEELS IMPORTANT without TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT OR TELLING OUR... EVEN BETTER: Without ASKING... take the lead.
The important part I believe, is the man must always keep the lead on, and supply her emotions in a way that she's not expecting, not repetitive, ''good''.
Everything ''special'' can become ''common'' if its turned into a routine...so mix it up a bit
It's always doing something about ''her'', make her feel unique, the only one, that your actions are genuine and thoughtful, but also that you do THAT ONLY TO HER (you might have done it with others... but she needs to know and feels... she's the only ONE (before,now,after)
Ex: I brought my girlfriend to a garden light show.. I've been there 2 times before in 6 years (1 time with my ex, 1 time as a double date) and I told her i've been there before twice (but never told her with whom or for what: she knows likely but you don't ever bring others in the ''moment'') ... when me and my current GF arrived at a spot.... the spot was gorgeous and mesmerizing.... You know the first thing she said after ? ''wow, its beautiful'' ... ''Have you been here before with someone else''
I told her she was my first time here... (it was true cause they changed the setting entirely since the last time... so I was lucky... I didnt lie and I made her feel special with a unique setting)
So for to feel special: She needs to know and feel you love her, you are always only with her in the moment, you do actions that feed her emotions, actions that aren't what she expect from you (say you arent romantic AT ALL... but this one time be romantic!).
This thread made me wonder now: what am I gonna do for my LTR to feel special
.. question of keeping the flame alive
I wrote about them here... a elderly couple at a restaurant for their 60 years of mariage... The guy sang her 60 songs ... 1 song per year... you should see how she was into him and joining him.... For 20minutes the restaurants became quiet, everyone, even the staff.. just looking at them
Sex is not special for her because she can get it anywhere... or you can have it anywhere.... Love or intimacy will make her think of you above the ''physical''
So to make her feel special... she needs to know and feel she's above the physical.
You have to do, by action, stuff that doesn't sound to make sense to you but it will to her.
Listening to her non-sense like Roober said
Open the door for her
Buying flower
Cooking for her
Something special and unique that shows you put effort,emotions,caring in it
Above all: DO SOMETHING SHE FEELS IMPORTANT without TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT OR TELLING OUR... EVEN BETTER: Without ASKING... take the lead.
The important part I believe, is the man must always keep the lead on, and supply her emotions in a way that she's not expecting, not repetitive, ''good''.
Everything ''special'' can become ''common'' if its turned into a routine...so mix it up a bit
It's always doing something about ''her'', make her feel unique, the only one, that your actions are genuine and thoughtful, but also that you do THAT ONLY TO HER (you might have done it with others... but she needs to know and feels... she's the only ONE (before,now,after)
Ex: I brought my girlfriend to a garden light show.. I've been there 2 times before in 6 years (1 time with my ex, 1 time as a double date) and I told her i've been there before twice (but never told her with whom or for what: she knows likely but you don't ever bring others in the ''moment'') ... when me and my current GF arrived at a spot.... the spot was gorgeous and mesmerizing.... You know the first thing she said after ? ''wow, its beautiful'' ... ''Have you been here before with someone else''
I told her she was my first time here... (it was true cause they changed the setting entirely since the last time... so I was lucky... I didnt lie and I made her feel special with a unique setting)
So for to feel special: She needs to know and feel you love her, you are always only with her in the moment, you do actions that feed her emotions, actions that aren't what she expect from you (say you arent romantic AT ALL... but this one time be romantic!).
This thread made me wonder now: what am I gonna do for my LTR to feel special
.. question of keeping the flame aliveI wrote about them here... a elderly couple at a restaurant for their 60 years of mariage... The guy sang her 60 songs ... 1 song per year... you should see how she was into him and joining him.... For 20minutes the restaurants became quiet, everyone, even the staff.. just looking at them