How do you guys handle it when women reject you

[Pettycoat Junction]

I'm not really bothered by rejection, I know its a part of dating and meeting women. My only concern is that sometimes things get screwed up between me & the woman when I ask her out, so I usually avoid doing that. Which sucks because today college started and I approached about 6 girls but didn't number/date close with any of them (some from class, some on the streets), I just talked to them a bit because I don't want to alienate them when some say no.

I know all the stuff about 'who cares what other people think' which is usually the response, but I do care. I don't mind rejection, but I'd rather not push people away or alienate them, esp. not if I have to push away or alienate 20ish women a month. How do you guys deal with it, and if its not a concern of yours what is your perspective on the subject so you don't care about it? I'd like to either learn to stop caring, or learn how not to alienate them in the first place, or learn how to smooth things over afterwards.

The reality is if I just keep talking to them like nothing happened afterwards that could work. In my experience alot of women just say 'no' automatically and seem to change their minds later. So asking them out, then staying on good terms with them should work out.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

I sit in a dark corner and sob.

 

[MidnightResistance]

Rejection comes in two ways.

Nice Rejection
Bad Rejection.

In my opinion 'nice' rejection is where the girl makes an excuse or plainly says no.

'Bad' rejection, which I've been getting a lot of recently is from chicks who enjoy rejecting guys and are as *****y and cutting as possible. The only response you can give is to walk away, start a blazing agument (which they will not back down from) or get your head kicked in by a couple of *****-whipped male friends of hers.

The Bad rejections are the ones that sure as hell dent my confidence and ruin my night if I'm not with a good bunch of mates.

 

[Kitsune]

I think eventually you'll learn to stop caring, I know I did a long time ago. Life is unfair, and you learn to accept that there will be many times in which you fail, and only a few in which you suceed. She rejects you, so what, if you're not emotionally attached to her then it's no big loss if she's still your friend the next day (Although I've noticed a lot of women who rejected you will tend to stereotype you as a jerk or a playboy) or if you don't see her again.

 

[snintel]

I'm an incredibly good comeback artist. If I get fired up enough, I can lay down a five minute long devastating string of insults, and get everyone laughing too. So if I ever get a cold ***** ass rejection, I'll just clown her ass and walk away. She might be so stunned that it has a reverse effect.

Either way, I don't let it get to me.

 

[Pettycoat Junction]

Man, today I saw a girl walking to class so I go up to talk to her and once she realizes I'm hitting on her she totally clams up. It was pretty funny, I only approach mediocre/slightly cute looking girls so maybe she wasn't used to the attention or something, or maybe she is just one of those people who think guys hitting on strange women is a bad thing. Anyway, I worry about hitting on girls in class who end up acting that way. I need to learn either how to stop caring, how not to alieante them, or how to smooth things over if they do get alienated.

I've never had to worry about any ***** whipped guy friends attacking me for the 'crime' of hitting on their friend because I'm pretty muscular and reasonably tall and most people wouldn't try to do that to me. I've also been told I have pretty intense eyes and a good 1000 yard stare so I don't really have to worry about people on a college campus attacking me. The worst that happens to me is I get insulted behind my back, which isn't a huge deal to me.

 

[tristan22]

I never get rejected when i ask for a number. I guess my rejection comes from not being able to get a date with the female once i call (happens sometimes).

I have been rejected so many times, i guess i'm immune to it now. I guess i get a little disappointed, but hey--it's out of my hands, so i get over it!

 

[Pettycoat Junction]

How do you smooth things over after the rejection though, do you just pretend it didn't happen? Some of these women I'll have to see nearly daily for the next few years.

 

[tristan22]

I act like no big deal. The sweetest revenge is for her to see you having a good time with other females!

 

[salsipuedes]

It amazes me how we all have different areas in wich we fail miserably with women, some can't aproach, others can't close, others are too needy, others are too pushy, it reminds me when i used to work in sales, selling time shares in a popular beach resort, i started out and realized EVERYBODY was using the very same pitch to try to sell timeshares, this "pitch" sucked, it only worked on a very small percentage of people, yet everybody was using it, why? because it fell in their comfort zone, because they knew everybody was using it. So i started to become friends with the number one seller, this guy was a ****ing machine, stone cold, calculating, and never used the same pitch, he knew all the tricks, all the psychology behind people, and he was making 10 times or more what others where doing, i then realize he was a natural, i realize i could never be as good as him, but i could be better than the rest, i could make a decent living, and thats where my goals went.

I studied, tried, and worked hard, and didnt become as succesful as him, but i become better than all the rest.

 

[brenbaus]

you get to a point where it does not bother you anymore because you are used to it.