How do you guys feel about texting?

[KockyMcGoodstroke]

How do you guys feel about texting as a main form of communication? I usually hate talking on the phone, but I push myself to do so. I was wondering what you guys thought, and which do you feel is the preferred method for communicating with chicks?

 

[lorekeeper]

I like it, but only because I'm a slow thinker and suck at convos. I'm really witty in texts though, only because I have time to think about it.

My phone game is next to nothing, but trying to call out more instead of text.

 

[Kailex]

How do you guys feel about texting as a main form of communication? I usually hate talking on the phone, but I push myself to do so. I was wondering what you guys thought, and which do you feel is the preferred method for communicating with chicks?

As a main form of communication?
Terrible.

What are you supposed to do when you actually get out with a girl: Text her the entire date?

I hate texting more than I hate talking on the phone. At least on the phone I can build upon emotion, gauge interests and reactions, etc...

My preferred method for communicating with chicks are pelvic thrusts.

 

[tony-montana]

love it! dunno why people say it's weak and saying you won't get any from it. sure a phone call is nice cause you can feel the vibe and excitement through their voice but texting is perfectly fine! no problems here!

although a phone call every now and then is good too. i prefer texting though. gives you time to think and be precise. then again i've never been one to call the girls much. it's usually them calling me more lol.

 

[OamImrsNemo]

I text friends. Because I don't mind bullsh!tting with friends.


I talk to girls in person. Because I want every part of every conversation escalating emotionally/sexually as much as I can. Staring her deep in her eye's getting some kino in. Making her feel alive. Pushing for sex.


If you waste all you options texting you'll both be twiddling your thumbs. Thats okay with "friends". Not somone you wanna fvck.

 

[Heaven or Hell]

I think that the key word that you are looking for is:

BALANCE!​

Texting has its pro's (Example: Having time to think and deliver better thought out / calculated responses)

Phone: As stated above :

build upon emotion, gauge interests and reactions, etc

- Also helps you feel more comfortable with her for the next ingredient...​

Face To Face: This is my personal preferred method of communication. This is where you have the opportunity to interact with one another 360 degree's, and the more comfortable you become with a woman the easier it will become for you to think and relax and really have fun around and with her.

So I would say that a balance between the above three is the best answer to your predicament. Too much of any ONE thing is bad, keep that in mind and most importantly, have fun.

 

[Reckoning]

Texting is awesome because you can think through before you say anything, which makes you deliver to her exactly the thing you want and think you should say at the moment. Phone calls is good for being witty with her, you can really sweep her off her feet sometimes when you connect it, coordinating a meeting up in a huge town etc. Face to face is the main thing and most important of these three, that's when all of your charm is supposed to show.

 

[r0cky]

I dont like texting but girls love it so I guess i have to suck it up.

 

[NO MA'AM]

KockyMcGoodstroke,

I think the members Heaven or Hell and OamImrsNemo are essentially correct. The biggest pitfalls to texting are mis-communication and risking relegating the relationship into a virtual world.

Don't get me wrong. I know many girls today love texting and IM chat, and if you don't do either you will likely reduce the field of available girls. However, minimizing the text and chats and getting them out in the real world is essential. If you find these ways are the only means of communication with a particular girl, it is time to move on.

One more thing: If her reasoning for keeping a relationship exclusively chat/text is that she is too busy, you can only conclude one of two things.

1. She is too busy, and you would be a second-class citizen in her world.
2. She is simply uninterested in you or getting into a relationship with you. Girls usually will MAKE TIME for guys they are interested in.

 

[JCballin88]

I posted this in a thread last year, and I think it still rings pretty true.

Like others have said (and like it or not), texting IS the most direct and efficient way to get ahold of the females in your life right now. I also prefer it for several reasons:

1) One of my clear strengths is writing. I love creative writing and when I can write things to girls, I can always be funny. Of course I try to avoid writing long texts, but I find that I can be very creative and witty and snap back hilarious one-liners that girls always laugh at. This also goes for Facebook Chat and that type of thing - girls have told me in person that I literally had them in hysterics from some of the things I can convey through words.

2) While writing is a strength for me, conversational phone-game is definitely something I am poor at. Awkward pauses really get me stressed, so I end up nervously talking about nothing in particular. Also my phone service tends to come and go, and I often have to ask girls to repeat themselves while on the phone, which is annoying for both people.

3) Sometimes it's difficult to arrange a time to call people, and the formality of having to set up a time so you don't play endless phone tag is annoying. Logistically, it's much easier to text, because I can honestly do that almost any time of the day, even if I'm just sitting in class bored out of my mind.

 

[Effington]

Good for one-liners, ie "be outside in 5 minutes", but not good for conversations.

 

[EA Gold]

Texting to show your value and that its them who are chasing you, good.

Over texting and being too available, not good.

 

[NO MA'AM]

I posted this in a thread last year, and I think it still rings pretty true.

Like others have said (and like it or not), texting IS the most direct and efficient way to get ahold of the females in your life right now. I also prefer it for several reasons:

1) One of my clear strengths is writing. I love creative writing and when I can write things to girls, I can always be funny. Of course I try to avoid writing long texts, but I find that I can be very creative and witty and snap back hilarious one-liners that girls always laugh at. This also goes for Facebook Chat and that type of thing - girls have told me in person that I literally had them in hysterics from some of the things I can convey through words.

2) While writing is a strength for me, conversational phone-game is definitely something I am poor at. Awkward pauses really get me stressed, so I end up nervously talking about nothing in particular. Also my phone service tends to come and go, and I often have to ask girls to repeat themselves while on the phone, which is annoying for both people.

3) Sometimes it's difficult to arrange a time to call people, and the formality of having to set up a time so you don't play endless phone tag is annoying. Logistically, it's much easier to text, because I can honestly do that almost any time of the day, even if I'm just sitting in class bored out of my mind.

I sometimes find the phone game difficult also. Every now and then, you don't have a good comeback, your answer is not well thought out, or maybe there is that subtle apprehension or uncertainty in your voice, especially with a girl you're just getting to know. And it is true those minor things could hurt the situation or hopefully just make it a little awkward. But the major hurdle with texting is the crutch factor. Eventually, this relationship must enter the real world and you will have no keypad to hide behind then. I look at phone conversation as good practice for the main event.

 

[tsmith2334]

Good for one-liners, ie "be outside in 5 minutes", but not good for conversations.

Texting to show your value and that its them who are chasing you, good.

Over texting and being too available, not good.

^ Both of those are true statements.

A few things here. I think texting depends a lot on age. Thirty or forty year-olds might feel out of place, but it's become standard fare for teenagers and people in their twenties.

Use it to your advantage.

I know a few girls (one who's particularly interested in me right now) who strictly text and hate talking on the phone.

I don't think you should only text women (of course there needs to be face-to-face and some phone calls) but it can be a very effective and DJ way to communicate if you do it right.

 

[vatoloco]

I don't like it but I understand it's necessary.

You have to learn to think quickly on your feet (especially with women). Too much texting and too little phone/live interaction will never teach you this crucial life skill.